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writes:I met a girl (a friend of a friend) on a night out the other day. We got talking and things got intimate pretty quickly. To cut a long story short we spent the whole night together and it was probably one of the best nights I've ever had. I don't exactly find it difficult picking up girls at clubs but this seemed different.So anyway she made me promise I'd call the next day - so I did in the evening. We both said we'd had a great time but when I hinted at wanting to see her again things kind of got a bit odd and awkward since that wasn't the response I was expecting after the night we'd had. She left it as "I'm sure I'll see you again since we're doing similar things this year."But here's the problem - for some reason I just can't get her out of my head. I barely know her yet I can't forget about her - whereas usually I can forget pretty quickly about a one night stand.I really would like to see her again and I'm tempted in just going for broke and telling her what I really think and casually inviting her out this weekend since I'll be going out anyway. Maybe she's playing hard to get or maybe she's genuinely uninterested. So far as I see it waiting for something to happen and doing nothing yourself generally leads to nothing happening. If I do tell her what I genuinely think it will either scare her off in which case I'll know to move on or I'll end up seeing her again - which is what I want. As for contacting her I don't really want to put her on the spot in a phone call so right now I'm thinking of a (relatively lengthy) text - which will give her time to think about it. I feel kinda weird trying to push this but at the same time I think it would be good for me to get a definite answer and if I don't get the response I want it will allow me to move on without doubting what could've been.Sorry if this made little sense and this isn't exactly a question... I suppose I'd just like to get people's opinions on my own thoughts - even if you call me crazy!Thanks! X
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (17 September 2012):
 You sound a lot like me. Which is smart in this case. I think you should always just go for it, put it out there. If she isn't interested you move on, like you said. If she is then great. But you don't know until you try right?? So go with a text or call her, either way should be fine. I know I wouldn't be upset if I received this by text. Say you really enjoyed your time together and would love to get to know her better, then ask her out for the weekend as you planned. If she doesn't then that's that. Maybe say also that you aren't interested in only sex but getting to know her and seeing where it could go, just in case she thinks you only want sex from her. But make everything you say clear, don't hint. It's much better saying something than wondering what could've happened. Good luck :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 September 2012):
 Call her, no texting.. Ask her out. If she says no, then take the no gracefully and let it go. If she can't go because she has other plans make SURE she has our number and ASK her to call YOU if she want to get together.. Give it a week and if you don't hear from her... drop it & move on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 September 2012):
 why did you hint about wanting to see her?
why not just come right out and ask?
sounds like you are both playing games
call her up and ask her out for one night this weekend...
look either she's interested or she's not.
you won't know till you take the risk
the worst thing she can say is no thank you...
and if she says she can't she's busy
tell her you are interested and ask her to call when she's free...
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (17 September 2012):
 She's already given you her answer, but a text would be fine if it helps set your mind at rest. If you get no reply, take that as another "no".
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