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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I'm not attracted to my boyfriend's lack of motivation

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4434 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I just graduated college with my bachelor's degree. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2.5 years. My boyfriend will be done with his bachelor's degree in December. We've had many conversations about the future, from where we wish to live to if we want to have children. However, ... (144 words)

Why can't I ever get a guy who cares about me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4433 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so here I'm going to give a little back ground before I ask the question hopefully so you all somewhaht get a better idea of what is going on. In July, me and my ex broke up because I found out he was cheating. Well, I gave him another chance about a month ago and it turns... (417 words)

He is against gay marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, I met this guy who is confused about what he wants. He was with a guy and they broke up now he is with a girl. Lately we stated talking and I am getting the vibe that he likes me. He likes to touch me a lot when he is talking to me. Unfortunately, he is a big believer in ... (197 words)

Are we just numb from everything that has happened? Or have we lost our spark?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4434 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, I have been with a truly lovely man for 4 years and we were that couple that were so into each other, laughing together and holding hands all the time, absolute best friends. The last 2 years has been a very difficult time for both of us with so many stresses goin... (1141 words)

In a FWB relationship should I be angry that he stood me up?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4343 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been seeing a guy for quite a short time. It started out as a one night stand but we have been seeing each others again after that. It is clear it is nothing else than for sex, which is fine with me since I am recently single and not really looking for anything more ... (138 words)

Two online guys which one do I chose?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4434 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm stuck in the middle of a dilemma. First a quick background thing about me: I have a penchant for getting into online relationships. I always get incredibly into them, but despite my feelings, I've never gotten a visit (more because of my circumstances and how my family v... (740 words)

It really started out like FWB, but now I'm not so sure ...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4434 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So I am in a bit of a situation, a pretty big one if that. I got in contact with this guy I had a fling with when I was 17, our friends hooked us up, after we broke up from our relationships failed, and we ended up having sex a few times and it was amazing. But I broke it... (300 words)

I have an athletic body, but no boobs. Are my friends right about the comments, I'm now self conscious guys will be put off!!?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4434 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel really self conscious about my body after the comments from people I live with at uni, now I think they're right that a guy wont like my body or maybe I should get surgery, or gain weight, anything to change myself. I'm not that tall, only about 5'4 but I am a size ... (348 words)

I've pointed out the red flags but feel like my g/f never gives me a clear answer

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - So homecoming is coming up. I'm not going, i dont really like dances. But my gf is, and im really scared she going to be dancing on other girls since i'm not their with her. My friends keep telling me ,they see her playing with other girls. She told me she would never cheat ... (106 words)

Feel like I married both my husband and his sister -- and she doesn't like me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4433 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age - I have been married for two years and was blindsided by a problem that he has: his sister. She was very friendly before the engagement and wanted to be my best friend. My husband and she are very close. They talk every day on the phone, lived together when they were in ... (255 words)

It feels like he's rushing things -- is he a player?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone,i am a bit nervous these days and i thought of asking for any advice,there is a guy wich i like and i have known him for three years now,we have been in high school together,we started dating and only after three weeks he wanted to have sex,but im still a virgin and ... (81 words)

Is he trying to get back at me because I told him I won't cheat with him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4434 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - There is this guy friend I have that's been doing his best to lead me on. He has a girlfriend but he was always acting like he was single. We were involved in an emotional affair you could say and nothing physical ever happened but not because he wasn't trying. It's due to me ... (289 words)

How do I get this balance right between wanting to be myself and neither be a doormat or too much like his ex? I want to be appropriately assertive.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4434 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello Everyone, I've asked for help before about a relatively new relationship and it was so helpful - but I have another question please... my confidence is still a bit low in regard to relationships because I had a very difficult one for a very long time, so every now... (577 words)

Her Mom has agreed to keep it secret. But do I tell my new Gf that I had sex with her Mom in the past?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

29 September 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I have been dating a woman for a few months now and all is going really great. Recently she introduced me to her mother and immediately we recognized each other. A few years earlier we were in a bar and started talking to each other. She is was older but was looking to h... (103 words)

Do I keep it to myself or tell my sister? My sister's husband of nine years told me he is having an affair

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Yesterday was the worst day of my life. My sister's husband of nine years told me he is having an affair,he trusted me enough to tell me, but I feel like I'm betraying my sister. Please help me what should I do????? My sister also has a life treating disease. It's something ... (72 words)

I have concerns about returning to my FWB. What should I do though? He wants to resume, but his past actions concern me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I realise there is a lot of questions asked about this thank you for any answers in advance I just need some opinions on this situation I have been in a FWB for 18 months now he asked me if it could just be me and him sleeping together and not to sleep with anyone else. A... (212 words)

Can I regain his trust? He doesn't trust me anymore, he says he loves me but he doesn't know if he wants to be with me anymore

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - last week i said to my boyfriend that maybe we should break up but i was stupid for saying it i just thought it would make him happier. ever since i said it things haven't been the same, he doesn't trust me anymore, he says he loves me but he doesn't know if he wants to be wi... (93 words)

My first serious relationship. But many anxieties:( Did you go through anything like this? What helped? What didn't help?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm currently in my first serious relationship, and have been finding it very hard to settle into things. I love my boyfriend very much but it has taken me a while to trust him, how to balance my relationship around my life appropriately, how to accept that he's had relation... (235 words)

LDR - Is he taking me for granted or am I being selfish?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I met this guy online around 6 months ago, we are both mature people so I think we both knew what we were doing when we got into this LDR. I let him know about my health which is a severe neurologic condition from day one. He says he loves and adores me, that my health w... (352 words)

How do I tell my husband that I'm pregnant with another man's baby?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband and I have had alot of issues that we just cant seem to get over. 3 months ago I told him I was unhappy and didnt love him anymore and didnt want to be with him. we have 2 children together and he said to me if I left he would take the kids. I told him, id stay, but ... (110 words)

Is our "sex talk" just healthy acting out, or is it going a little too far?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (M)

age - My wife and I have enjoyed a fantastic relationship for the past 15 years. The problem is, we have been together for 17. The past couple years has been a little more up and down, but hopefully not something that we can't work through. It could be that arguing is so foreign to u... (536 words)

My problem is low self-esteem and low confidence. But can I fix it ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - It seems like the root of my problems is low self-esteem/confidence. I think I have gotten a lot stronger, especially with the help of my boyfriend... but how can I make sure that my doubts don't keep coming up in my mind and affecting our relationship?... (47 words)

I wonder how someone who says they love you, can be so cruel with their words and comments

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (M)

age - I am 52and my common-law wife is 46. We had an amazing relationship for the first 15 years of out 17 together, with only 3 or 4 arguments. We had always put each other first, and love and respect were two aspects of a relationship we cherished. The relationship took a v... (999 words)

I need some suggestions to help me understand why this is happening? I'm having some communication difficulties with a guy I met.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - So there's this guy. I met him about 3 months ago on a friday at an event. It was a big weekend with tons of events and we kept bumping into each other. We talked about many things and really connected. A few days latter I found him on facebook and wrote him a private message ... (228 words)

Afraid that losing my virginity will hurt ...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4436 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so I'm terrified of losing my viginity. I'm in a relationship he's asked me to marry him but i know it won't last anyway i like this guy in school and i think he likes me back and i want to lose it to him. But im terrified of penetration. How bad does it hurt? My bff said it ... (73 words)

Could my comforting her have started something?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4436 days ago

29 September 2012 (M) age 26-29 - So there's this girl on my Cross Country team I really like. She's pretty quiet and never really initiates conversation, but she's really nice when you get her started. A couple weeks ago, she fell apart after a race (took a wrong turn, and she's amazing so she took it hard)and ... (113 words)

I'm in love with a guy, who loves someone else.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have this best friend and I am head over heels in love with him. He makes me so happy and i just want to be with him. He was upset today and I asked him why. I finally got through to him and he told me. He said that he has been in this long distance relationship and today she ... (195 words)

My g/f isn't "the one" -- but her best friend might be

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - so ive got myself in a bit of a jam. im 25 and have dated around a lot trying to find exactly what im looking for. I started dating a new girl about 3 months ago and a few red flags are up...I know she's not the girl for me. The problem becomes critical when she introduc... (222 words)

Was I too inflexible?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4436 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Did I handle this right or was I inflexible? I have been seeing a man for many months and there have been "issues" mostly around him being too busy to make plans etc.. So he travels alot for work and was in town for only two days. He told me how much he missed me and wa... (196 words)

My longterm boyfriend wants to sleep with someone else but doesn't want to cheat. Is a threesome the answer?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4435 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years, and we have both only been with each other during our relationship. He has suggested him sleeping with another woman, but not wanting to cheat on me, suggesting a three-some. His ex-wife was into girls and would bring ... (113 words)

Help for a shy girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4434 days ago

29 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I hope this doesn't come out too long, i still feel like i left things out. If there's mistakes sorry this was written on my phone! So last year this guy had a crush on me. He came up to my table one day saying that there were hot girls here and later on he asked me my name... (338 words)