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writes:Hy. I met an awesome guy on the net. He s 5years older than i am. We have been exchanging texts for a year now. His parents currently live in my country but he moved to another country(continent) with his god parents because of education etc(well that s what he told me). Anyway me and this guy have been very close friends on the net, we also called each other several times.. He always tells me that he loves me, that im sweet, cute and kind before he hangs up the phone. Though we are friends i think we both know that we love each other more than the way friends should. He said he will be coming back to my country someday (i just dont know when). I mean should i wait for him so that when he comes he finds me being single, or should i move on with the other guys? Thanx
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (17 September 2012):
 NO, you definitely should NOT wait, nor waste any more time on this man.
Listen: you have only communicated by texts and a few phone calls. My dear young lady, he could be ANYBODY for all you know.
Please take note of what I'm going to tell you: he could be married; he might be a petty criminal, or even a pimp in a prostitution ring. I am NOT trying to alarm you (well, maybe I am, somewhat). I mean, he could be a perfectly nice, decent guy on the up and up, for all you know. However, that's just it, you DON'T know and with the limited contact (not in person, either) you've had with him, there is no way of telling.
That he is so much older than you and is telling you he loves you, you're kind, sweet, and all that is nothing but a HUGE RED FLAG. It's nonsense. All HE knows is you're a young girl (at most 17) vulnerable to having her head turned by his "sweet talk." He's never met you in person, so how CAN he possibly know what sort of young woman you really are? Short answer: he can't - just as you can't know what he's actually like.
Please, be sensible and pay attention not only to what I've said, but to So Very Confused's excellent response - AND most important - talk to your PARENTS and be guided by them!
Sorry, I know this is not the kind of answer you hoped for, perhaps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): Nah my parents know nothing about him. I never thought it was a big deal, now it seems like it is..maybe its such a bad idea after all. Thank you so much. :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 September 2012):
 MOVE ON honey...
two things
1. you are let's say 17 so you were 16 when you met he's now 22 so he was 21 when you met..
21 year old MEN should NOT be interested in 16 year old girls...if they are they are not mature enough for when you will be old enough.
do your parents know about this 22 year old? what do they say?
if you have never met him IRL and he says he loves you be afraid.. how in the world could he love you if he doesn't know you... love takes time to grow and mature...
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