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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I hooked up with a western guy once. I am an Asian guy. This Western guy told me about his life, his girlfriend and being with me was his first time and I told him the last time I was touched was when I was 17.He said he was lucky meeting me as I’m a good person. We didn’t stay over night but going out for foods and when we left, he said he would want to meet me again, like for pizza. And the next 2 days I didn’t hear anything from him, so I texted asking what was he doing. He didn’t text me back, right that day I saw him hanging out with a girl, he told me he was about to text me, and since the things between us was a secret, I watched him leaving with the girl. I deleted his number. Days passed I received a text from him asking why I didn’t reply his messages? I said I din’t receive anything and what were in the messages? He said he asked me to have pizza with him. By that I thought he truly wanted to meet me and as he was moving away to another country in 20 days, I revealed my feelings for him by writing to him messages saying I want to open my world for him. And he said: “by looking for a discrete fun, I never expected there’s a guy who can “open his world for me”He left. There was no connection between us so I thought this was over. One sleepless night I found his facebook coincidentally and decided to add, he talked to me first and said he needed to explain why he left and was like an asshole to me. I said “ok I’m listening” and he asked to do it in person, and he tried to meet me, on the 1st day he came back. Since he’s back, we met twice, I think he doesn’t trust me(he thinks I intend have sex) so the 1st time we have lunch. I didn’t ask for the reasons, so he didn’t explain. The awkwardness like has never existed ‘cause we had themes to talk about, so despite of the sexual side, we could be friends independently. We met again today. The day before today I texted him asking to have a drink and after two hours he replied: with a girl right now. Felt like being tested I said: bring her over, I want to see your taste in girls: He didn’t reply until the next day, about 20 hours later saying he couldn’t come to me ‘because he brought her straight back to his place.So I have 2 questions:1) whether he wanted to make me feel jealous or he was just honest?2) why does he always keeps me waiting via text, when that’s the thing for those people who are flirting around, right?When we met again, I asked then he told me the girl I saw him with(before he left my country) was one of his girls, meaning they had sex that day. I told his taste was awful and he said next time he would bring his D-cup tits girl(he just brought home) for me to judge ‘cause he’s intending to make her as his main girl. He also heard me wrong when I said I haven’t been touched since I was 17. And he thinks I’m straight, just curious like him and 17 was just the last time I was with the boy, so he asked about my girlfriends.Everything we had together was just started from curiosity, but I met his demand, so I don’t think he would ever want to have sex with me again, but I do want it. We never discussed about things between us. Ah the first time we met he made up a his name and where he came from, maybe he had never intended to see that guy he was going to hook up with again. He said he had never had a local guy friend ‘till he met me. So frankly to say, we have put a lot of efforts to make this friendship works out and sex might make things become awkward again( I don’t know he thinks the same way or he just doesn’t want it). I’m special to him by all his attitudes. And about me I’m tall and always told really good looking and through my Western friends eyes, I’m like a movie star. I know my guy isn’t attracted to boys but does my beauty help him feel more comfortable when I’m around? He’s kinda proud of having a friend like me when introducing to his friends, can’t stop giving compliments about my cool job. So we are in the balance as he doesn’t know how hurtful it was hearing his stories about girls.Now I need ur helps of what possibilities might happen in the future, and with my power, what can I do to him and how to avoid hurts?
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reader, Jessibell  +, writes (11 October 2012):
 Hunni, do NOT get your hopes up. Its obvious this man justs wants to be your friend. He wants bimbos not a man. Im not trying to be rude. By all means wait, but im telling you they way i've been told when i waited for a boy....why chase after someone who isnt chasing after me?...we all chase after the wrong person...why not turn around and look for the people who actually want us. You seem to be an amazing guy and you diserve better. Hunni look harder, not a man whore.(:
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