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*aiti30
writes:hello!I’m in a very difficult situation. Let me start from the bringing. My cousin's friend told my cousin he liked me, but I currently had a boyfriend so he didn’t pursue it, after me and my bf broke up, I got his number and we started texting, and honestly it was like a match mad in heaven, we had so many interests in common.We agreed on a date to the fair. It went great! Held hands and laughed all night, and he got along well with my 6 year old niece. We even hung out the next night with my cousin and one of their friends. We had a great night. But he was drinking and started ignoring me, so I got mad, but later he said that wasn’t him and apologized so I forgave him., but it was 4 in the morning so I decided to stay at my cousins house which he was staying at too, we stayed up and talked and shared soo many things. Things may have gotten out of control, he wanted to take it slow and I respect that, but we both kind of go touchy feely, and is he now saying we can’t do this right now,? That was it, then we slept. And the next two days went great, and then slowly he started texting me less, so we talked about what happened it got better. Then he just stopped, I got 3 texts a day, so I text him off of one of friends phone and he texted back instantly, so I may have went off. Then he started completely ignoring me... And said he didn’t want a relationship and this and that... I’ve tried to talk to him about it, because I know something triggered in him, I’m just not sure what. We text ever so often about noting, then back to ignoring me... I want to know how I can get him to text me again? What could’ve gone on in his mind? just recently i tried the jealous approach on face book because nothing was getting through to him, I have a friend who’s deployed so I posted you know you’re going through a deployment when you get dressed up for a Skype call, then Boom deleted off face book and skype... So that didn’t work... I’m not sure how to approach this situation, most of you will say he's not interested, but I don't know what could’ve happened to make him shut off like that... is there anyway I can get them text me again? get things how they use to be?? How do I handle this? I don’t want to let it go... how do I approach this? Please help!!!! Good input please not just to let it go...
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reader, kaiti30 +, writes (10 October 2012):
kaiti30 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Okay, so i sent a closure text message for me, and he didnt reply so that says everything, i may pick it up again next month... but you ladies are right we both need time, thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2012): Hey sweetie, crushes can be very exciting and very disappointing when they don't work out.. The aunts and uncles here don't say leave it to make you more unhappy, they say say it to help you move on, that yes you will feel unhappy but that too shall pass..
However why not send a very light hearted text, saying look you realise things maybe got to heavy yo soon but you would be quite happy being friends with him, and having a catch up text at the end of the month say. And when you do you make it exciting and light and as funny as you can , and you move on with your life though, you go out you take up hobbies you see friends,
Give him time to see what he's missing, he may change his mind and you may too..
Take care chin up..
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