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writes:Now this might sound a over reaction but my boyfriend text me goodnight and said see you soon luv?!!! Isn't luv what you would say to some random girl not your girlfriend of a year? He's English and I'm from Australia so is it common to use such phrase as a term of endearment or is it a reflection on his lack of real feelings for me? Thanks you in advance
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (11 October 2012):
I think you are over-reacting and probably spending too much time alone. Although you come from diffrrent sides of the planet it sounds like you live a little closer now. Its very likely that he really wants to say that he loves and misses you but is being very polite and not wanting to make you feel awkward or suspicious of his openness. I suggest that next time you see him you can say that you werent sure about his feeling from what he wrote but you hope it meant this. ... At which point you kiss him and take it from there.
SMS messages are the curse of modern living. Why not dial his number and actually hear each others human voices, its got to be better. Good luck and good fun, and remember you have much more in common than you have differences!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 October 2012):
 Hey Aunts and Uncle... there's no pleasing you guys :)
"Luv" is too casual,..."my child " is too wicked-witchy... ( Btw, in Italy the equivalent of " my child " is a normal, very affectionate term of endearment, exactly what you say to a girlfriend. Not that this has got anything to do with anything,since the guy is British . Just saying. )
Look, it's all terms of endearment, and after all, how creative can you get after a while ? ... Luv,love, honey, baby, darling, sweetheart, ...as long as it means care and affection , it's all good.
At least he did not call you guv'nor !
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 October 2012):
 I would ask him straight up what's up with the "Luv" and "my child"... if these are "new" terms he is using.
Just remind him you aren't British.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2012): Well I have to say I'm British and I don't use the terms "My child" or "Luv/Love" to refer to a girlfriend lol.
"Sleep well my child" sounds like something a wicked old witch would say to someone they've just tricked into drinking a cup or poison :/ haha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have to update this tonight he said sleep well my child?? I must say you British have a odd way with words haha what does that mean?? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for taking the time to answer. I guess it was the spelling of the wordtoo luv not love. I'm just a tad sensitive about it esp since we haven't exchanged thoughts on feelings yet ie no love you. He said since meeting me he feels a better man for all tbe things we've done together guess that's something......
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 October 2012):
 I get what your concern is... you feel he's not treating you as special enough.. that maybe your part of the herd...
it used to bug me when my ex would call everyone HON and include me in that (it's a generic term used here in my state specifically even part of the unofficial state slogan) because I wanted to be SPECIAL not part of the crowd...
it's generic. you are hurt and worried you are not special but I'm betting he didn't mean any harm by it... but to be honest when you talk to him ask him....
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (10 October 2012):
 Hi
Its a term I would associate with the older generation, but if he is 'seeing you soon' and alls well,then why worry about it?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 October 2012):
It's a like the American's using "hun". I lived in England for a year and the first few times elderly ladies would use "luv" I was flabbergasted.. lol I had a few WTF?! moments.I think it's a term of endearment though. Maybe he was in a place writing the text where he didn't feel like he could write cutesy stuff? At work? Around people?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2012): O, they say it to everyone, to a child, or friend or waitress in restaurant. It's like Spanish say" mi Amor"' or Italians "bella".Well, at least he didn't call you my friend. I dot think it means anything. Husbands call their wives love and visa versa.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2012): Its a casual expression of speech, it could be said to a friend, random person etc, in a number of different sentences. I would have thought he'd refer to you as "sweetheart" or "darling" when saying "Good night" to his girlfriend.
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reader, sofialoren +, writes (10 October 2012):
 I'm English and I would say this is just common say in some parts of the country. As you probably know, you just go to a shop and the guy at the till might say-'How's it going, luv?'I won't bother about it though-if everything else about your relationship seems fine, then's don't even think about it. However, if he seems distant and not really into you, then yeah, it's a weird expression
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reader, fishdish +, writes (9 October 2012):
 Yea it's casual but it just sounds like a term of endearment to me.
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