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anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 monthsWe were having a conversation about exs - when he was describing one he said some features and I go so she was a full hot girl? Then he goes I would t describe her as hot, she was cute. Then I go well what am I? And he goes you're cute as well. He starts describing his most recent ex after that and goes 'she was a full hot girl!!' and saying how much he got along with her but he had to stop talking to her even though he really liked her because she was too flirty - this is the same thing he doesn't like about meI'm worried if he's going to realize he likes this girl more than he likes me - he was speaking so in awe of herI don't know what he wants with me I'm so confused if he can get amazing looking girls who are better than me - should I confront him about it? Any thoughts?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (9 October 2012):
 EVERY red-blooded American man wants to bed down EVERY blisterin' hot babe that comes within his perview... it is one of the most important "laws of nature"..... (Actually, we men think it is the ONLY "law of nature"!!!!)...
It is not necessary for you to fret over this feature of men... it's just a bit of who we are....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2012): FYI: Every guy who is willing enough to try can get amazing looking girls. So don't even worry about that as an issue.
However I see some major red flags here. First off he's the one who's insecure, he dumped a girl he got one really well with and who was beautiful because she was too flirty? That's insecure as hell and not only that but he just stopped talking to her too? Oh and it gets worse because he says you too have that exact same problem and guess what he also implied she was better than you in terms of looks?
Firstly I don't really like talking about ex's. I see no use to it and I certainly don't gush and glow about how attractive they or amazing they were.
He could be as person12345 says and trying to make you jealous and insecure, and to be honest I think that kind of shit is pathetic. It's more than likely though OP that he's full of shit and trying to big himself up. I bet if you talked to that ex you'd hear a very different story to what he said and one in which he doesn't come off very well, although being insecure enough to dump a girl because she's affectionate and flirty is weird in itself. Telling you that you're also like that is a bad move too because now not only has he you thinking that you're not as pretty as his ex but that you also have every reason to believe he will just dump you too because you're flirty too.
Be very careful, this is nothing to do with what he can get in terms of women, this is more to do with what the hell this guy's game is. Why would he say all this stuff, why would he put those thoughts in your head, what was he trying to achieve? Sounds to me like he was trying to big himself up because he's insecure as hell.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 October 2012):
 First off, if he can get amazing looking girls but is with you, the way you should interpret that is that you are an amazing looking girl. Not that he can do better. Clearly he has standards, and clearly you meet and/or exceed them!
The second thing though, I'd be worried this guy is a bit of a manipulator. It sounds like he's purposefully trying to make you insecure (and succeeding at it) in order to get you to behave how he wants. I'd be even more wary of a guy talking about how into other girls he is. I'd tread cautiously with this one... He doesn't sound like he's good boyfriend material from this incident.
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