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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My problem is a tough one... I recently slept with my ex-girlfriend who has been in a new relationship for almost 3 months. She and I have been on and off for 10 years. The thing is this year i really tried to move on by giving her space and going no contact. That worked for almost 6 months. 2 days after my b-day which she used to get in contact with me again she calls me late at night crying. She quickly starts in on me how she misses me and can't live without me, and I was actually starting to move on. As shes pulling in my drive-way she asks if its okay to come over. I reluctantly accept since she's in tears about how much she misses me and needs me. well one thing leads to another and we're fooling around in all crazy ways. I have remorse for the guy but she has done this before in her last serious relationship which lasted 2 years. I told the guy she was cheating on him and he turned on me, so i'm positive it's not my place to say anything this time. Sooner or later they all figure out what she's all about. My thing is I know who she is, i accept she is promiscuous and what not. The thing is after 6 months of no contact, i tried to move and give her space, SHE ran back to me. but she's reluctant to move any closer at the moment. So do I continue to try and sleep with her considering sooner or later she'll probably break up with this guy too or do I move on with life... she'll probably just keep coming back if i do.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (9 October 2012):
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Shes a bit of a minx.You know that. SO to save yourself from her drama and emotional blackmail, move on. Don't respond to her at all,change your number.Make it clear you want nothing more to do with her or you will be in this loop for a very long time.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (9 October 2012):
Yeah, sounds like you need to move on with your life. Don't answer your phone when she calls; if that's too hard, then change your number and don't give it to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2012): Do you really want. A negative cycle to ruin the rest of your life? Do you see this as your life pattern?Never really having her... Never being the only one with her.. If that's what you want outof your life then continue on as you are.However from writing your post I think you do not.. You have feeling for this girl and after being with her for years off and on, who can blame you.. I think you need to tell her you care for her and if she wants you can work on salvaging the relationship now.. With the relationship being about you and only her and no others. Clean slate and all that, if you don't want that..Then I think you need to tell her that this is not working you have feelings for her but know with her behaviour they can go n further, so you two need a clean break.Your changing your cell number etc, she is not to come and visit you. This may seem harsh but this is the only way you are going to either solve or dissolve this relationship as its like quick sand ... It's just eating away at your life...Good luck to you both.
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