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writes:In high school, we got a new teacher who I completely fell for. I never ended up having his class, as the year before I had taken that class with the old teacher. I knew him a bit from my favorite teacher who was best friends with this teacher I liked. I talked to him a few times, but could barely form words in front of him and felt myself get red and shake because I was so crazy about him. I was very shy then, and fairly quiet, but a very good student. He knew I was a great student from my favorite teacher. Two years later, I graduated, and am now a junior in college. I decided to add him on Facebook about a month ago. He's 28 now and I am 20. I've had a boyfriend for about a year I'm not as crazy about anymore and it seems that maybe he's been hanging out with a woman, but aren't officially dating. My sister now has this guy as a teacher, and I went back to the high school to visit old favorite teacher and ended up talking to him. He gave me a strange up-down look and told me how much I'd changed. I still felt so nervous around him even though I'm quite outgoing now. It was the same feeling I had in high school about him. He is even more attractive to me now and I felt the same way about him. He is down to earth, witty, and very intelligent. He very much is someone I'd love to be with. I decided to send him a message on Facebook to tell him that we should hang out and be friends. Do you think this is a good idea or that it is wrong?
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (10 October 2012):
Oh and before I forget, end things with your bf first before starting off on this. Whether he's hanging out with another girl or not, you're basically already emotionally cheating on him. So set him free because this is not working anyway. One other thing: some teachers don't date people who have been students at the school they taught at. The line gets easily blurred that way and since it's probable you know students who are still at that high school, he may not want to take that risk.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (10 October 2012):
Well, since you're not his pupil and the age difference isn't a huge obstacle, there isn't anything ethically or morally wrong with it. Just be careful about getting your hopes up. You obviously have a huge crush on him and you are hyperaware of everything he says or does, but consider the idea that he may not feel the same about you. You two barely know each other and from what I've gathered the only reason you like him is because he's good looking. Not a lot of substance there. But sure, try it and see where it leads. Just keep your expectations low.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2012): "I'd like to hang out with my former teacher and be friends. Do you think this is a good idea or would it be wrong?"Not wrong, but not a good idea either. Any self-respecting ethical teacher should draw a line at socializing with students, even recent no-longer-students. He's probably now teaching younger siblings of your classmates and friends, would be very uncool of you to put him in anything remotely resembling a compromising position.That you are dissatisfied with current boyfriend seems to be your motivation for considering seeking him out raises huge red flag for me, suspect you may be looking for boyfriend and surrogate daddy in one package. "He very much is someone I'd love to be with." You very much are someone 99.9% of male teachers would not want to go near and would make every effort to avoid. Your chasing after him would be very unfair and likely quite embarrassing to him. For his sake, and yours, please keep your fantasy life to yourself.
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