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reader, Nada74  +, writes (14 October 2011):
Nada74 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTy all for replying. Sez88 : trust me I know how u feel. It's not easy to b in love with someone u know later that ur emotions and ur life was just a game to him.!! I hv been so low for d past week d only thing in my mind how to get him talking to me again . But I didn't contact him since it happened and am trying to b strong not to txt or call. I hv never felt the way I do for this man. Am not here to b judged or judge ppl am here for the advice as in this situation u get stuck and hurt but no one there to help u out or advice u. U r on ur own.!!! This is how I feel I hv let down my family being with this man but sometimes u can't help who u fall for. I hope u get over him as I do hope for my self that too. I still love him so much and wish him to contact me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2011): Thank goodness you're smart. Your realization of things has earned my respect. You also realized cheating is wrong. That also shows you are a good person, you were just misguided. I understand that. I wish my mom was as smart as you.
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reader, Nada74 +, writes (9 October 2011):
Nada74 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTy anute honesty . It is hard to let go I just can't understand that it is actually very easy for him to let go soo fast and suddenly deleting me from everything . U think if I give him time and space would make him realize to come back . I am so attached to him how can I do it? I hv never by the way told him how I feel I told him befor am not emotionally attached to him it's only for fun I did this cos I was afraid he will leave if he knew how I feel. How can he do this is it so easy for him he didn't hv any feeling or care for me it has been 2 years how can u know sone one for that long and not even care for em I am in total shock.!!! Can't concentrate on my life cos of him and wat he did to me.!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 October 2011):
 To be honest with you it is hard to go from being involved with someone romantically to try and be friends. I know that it hurts at the moment, but it will only hurt more trying to be friends with him because your feelings will still be there for him. It doesn't sound to me like he is going to want a friendship so I guess you just need to accept that he is no longer part of your life any more.
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reader, Nada74 +, writes (9 October 2011):
Nada74 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBy the way we only hd sex once in this 2 years.
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reader, Nada74 +, writes (9 October 2011):
Nada74 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTy all again for reading and giving me comfort . I honestly need it right now. I want to kno if u think his gonna contact me again?! I would live to hv him as a friend in my life even if I don't speak to him just b in my life not out of it completely .?!
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reader, Nada74 +, writes (9 October 2011):
Nada74 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTy all again for reading and giving me comfort . I honestly need it right now. I want to kno if u think his gonna contact me again?! I would live to hv him as a friend in my life even if I don't speak to him just b in my life not out of it completely .?!
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reader, Nada74 +, writes (9 October 2011):
Nada74 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTy so much for giving an advice. I am in pain for feeling I hv been used emotionally and physically I hv never thought in my life I would retch this low point ..!! I thought he cared for me..!! How stupid am I .?! Today he deleted my from his fb and foursquare and may b from his phone too..!! I got sooo angry but wat can I do he took the decision on behave of me as well with just cutting all contact.!! That is shining to kno some one for 2 years and they can get u aout of their head and life in seconds I just can't believe wat happened to me I hv never been with another man except my husband he married me I was a virgin..!! I hv been gd all my life with everyone and never fall in love like I did with this man who actually was just plying with my mind I can't believe there is ppl like this use other ppl to get wat they want it took him 2 years to convince me to sleep with him cos he care for me when I did he was gone.!!! Am ashamed of my self soo much I can't even look at d mirror ..!!!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 October 2011):
If am honest with you I think he is just using this as an excuse to end things with you. He has had his fun now and I think he wants to start being serious about his life and make things work with his wife. Am afraid there is not a lot you can do but to accept his decision. Yes it will be hard for a while, but put your thoughts and feelings in to your home life and create a better place for you at home. Make an effort to get the spark back with your husband and concentrate on family life. If you are battling with depression well then go to a doctor or therapist and get it dealt with. Put your energy in to rebuilding your life and home and making positive changes. Don't look at it as a negative, because it is probably best he finished things before lots more people got hurt, it would not be fair on your husband or your children to be hurt like this. Maybe the best thing you can do is to try and forget about it now and start making it up to your family. But if the love is just not there for your husband well then leave him. Its not fair to have the both of you suffer. You really need to think long and hard about what you want in life.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 October 2011):
If am honest with you I think he is just using this as an excuse to end things with you. He has had his fun now and I think he wants to start being serious about his life and make things work with his wife. Am afraid there is not a lot you can do but to accept his decision. Yes it will be hard for a while, but put your thoughts and feelings in to your home life and create a better place for you at home. Make an effort to get the spark back with your husband and concentrate on family life. If you are battling with depression well then go to a doctor or therapist and get it dealt with. Put your energy in to rebuilding your life and home and making positive changes. Don't look at it as a negative, because it is probably best he finished things before lots more people got hurt, it would not be fair on your husband or your children to be hurt like this. Maybe the best thing you can do is to try and forget about it now and start making it up to your family. But if the love is just not there
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