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writes:right then, I suppose this is a question mostly for the guys, but I think some girls' opinions would help too; basically, my boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time, I'm a virgin and he's not.I trust him implicitly (which is saying a lot coming from me - I hate to admit it, but I do have a few trust issues -_- )Firstly, I was wondering what to expect from the whole experience.Secondly (here's where the guy's opinion comes in), I know this might seem like I haven't got my priorities in check, but I was wondering...what to wear. As in, lingerie wise. Obviously I'm not going to go for the leather leotard and suspenders (!) but I've never picked out lingerie before and I really want to look good for him. I know he probably wouldn't mind at all what I wore, but I'd still like to look appealing.So . . . style? Colour? Guys, what do you like best? If it's of any use, my figure is pretty much straight up and down, not many curves, my legs are relatively long.And I was also wondering, if you've ever taken someone's virginity, what did you actually expect on the night, or think beforehand? I know it might seem like an odd question, but I've been chatting to friends, and my best mate said that he'll probably be as nervous as me...??? I don't claim to be an expert on the inner workings of a man's mind, but that sort of surprised me. Then again, my boyfriend is an incredibly caring, sweet kind of guy.Cheers!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): Obviously don't go in your girl boxers and sports bra but I wouldn't put too much thought into what you wear. As the others have said- it will all come off anyway and may even be too dark to see what you're wearing. Just buy some lacey French knickers (most flattering I find) and a matching bra and off you go. I wouldn't expect much from your first time if i'm honest, for most people it isn't fantastic but it does get better! Just relax :) Good luck!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (9 October 2011):
 What should wear? Guys don't care. Whatever negligee you decide on, is going to be ripped off in a matter of minutes. Men prefer you in the nude when it comes to sex.
If you're going to be purchase lingerie, make it a simple teddy or chemise. Make sure it can easily slip on and off. Don't want your boyfriend to be sitting there fumbling with how to get this complicated onesie off of you, thus killing the mood.
Guys aren't thinking too much when they're getting down and dirty. They're more focused on the task at hand and getting it accomplished. You're mainly feeling the passion and good feelings running thru your body. There's no room for thought here.
I also suggest making sure you have condoms on hand and have yourself on an approved method of birth control.
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (9 October 2011):
Every guy is different, and honestly there's no one here who can tell you what your guy wants. As much as you're uncertain about how to go about this, you probably know better than anyone just what will work for him.
That said, costumes have never mattered for me. The most erotic thing is a girl who is happy and content in doing what she's doing. A naked woman who is confident -- that's frankly as good as it gets.
I've been with two women who were virgins. All I ever thought was to make it good for them. It had nothing whatever to do with what they were wearing. It had to do with how to make it good for them -- which meant they had to be comfortable, they had to let go. A woman is responsible for her orgasm. He has to know what works for you, and you have to be willing to let it work for you. And for that to happen, you have to have great communication.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 October 2011):
 Ok so lets start with your first question and that is what to expect on the night, well everybody's first time is different off course. I am not going to lie it will be a little uncomfortable to start off with, but as long as he goes gentle and uses some lube it should all be fine. Am sure once you get in to it you will enjoy it. Everybody has something different to add to there first time, but as long as you are relaxed and it is what you want well then just go with it.
As for what to wear. Well again all guys like different things and different colours. Why not talk to him about it. Obviously you want it to be special for both of you and you want to look and feel good as well, but why not ask him what kind of underwear he would like to see you in? If you don't want to ask him well good options are a lace bra and thong either in red or black, that will never go wrong.
As for him being nervous. Well the only way that he would be nervous is in case he hurts you or he may fear that you might not enjoy yourself. Off course it will be a big deal for him as well to take your virginity. He may be a little nervous but just make sure you are both relaxed and no pressure. Good luck and hope it all works out well for you.
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