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*sunshine
writes:Hello. Just wanted to get some opinions of my situation. ( especially the men ) I have been dating a guy now for 5 months. Both of us have been married before with kids ( on both sides ) I know he is the one for me. When we met, after about 2 months, he told me he is so happy with our relationship and likes it just the way it is. From what I experienced and read...I see that some men are pursuaded to marry, due to the woman wanting to seal the deal and the actual wedding of course. I don't want to scare him off by bringing this issue up, or persuade him in any way.I want him to want this. It is early in our relationship... but in a year from now, I will be wondering if he would ever want to commit. Should I just wait it out and see if he brings it up? Or do you think by me saying something, will give him the oppertunity to consider it? We have never talked about it and I know he was really hurt by his ex wife. They were together from his age of 16 until he was 30 years old. I made the mistake of marrying the wrong person... Now that I finally found someone that I really do want to spend the rest of my life with... How should I approach this? Thank you.
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reader, 1sunshine +, writes (9 October 2011):
1sunshine is verified as being by the original poster of the question That sounds like great advise. I really don't want to ruin our relationship. Thank you so much!! :D
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 October 2011):
 If am honest with you I think it is way to early in the relationship to be talking to him about a marriage, even if it is further down the relationship. He has been hurt and off course he is going to need time to recover from his first marriage same as yourself. He was hurt badly and am guessing his wife was his first love. It is good that he has found happiness with you again and vice versa but I fear that if you bring up this subject so soon in to the relationship he may run a mile and freak out a little bit. It has only been five months. Give it some time. I recommend not saying anything to him just go with the flow for now and enjoy the relationship. You are both just getting out of marriages so you both need some time. Just enjoy the fun of a new and exciting relationship.
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