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writes:Ok so I've been with my boyfriend over a year. He's a really nice guy he's a lot older than me by like 8 yrs or so.Sometimes we disagree with so many things as he's a really jealous guy!! Recently my family had been talking to me about him changing me! They say I'm not the same, that I'm always in my room because he's always here. I dnt go out it's just him, him and him! They say I've been changed a lot. I do have kids and even though it's been close to a year. I sometimes feel he hasn't warmed up to them! He tells me he wants his own kids and I tell him how it's going to be an issue between us because he's certainly is going to prefer his! I feel confused and don't know what to do!!?!? Help!!! Im scared that if we break up he's going to do something stupid orthat he's just not going to care about anything!! Help!!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 October 2011):
 This is a very big issue. You being a mother I don't doubt that you want the best for your children and that they have priority. But at the end of the day if he is talking like this already this will be a huge problem later on down the line if you did have children together, because your children you have now will feel left out and will end up hating you for it. You need to think about them and there future. You have been together a year now and he still hasn't warmed to the children this is saying something, if he wants the family unit with you well he should be making a huge effort with your children, to prove to you that it will work. But it doesn't sound like he is. Plus with him being insecure and jealous am sure it is hard on you do you really want to have that for the rest of your life? Listen to your family as they are speaking sense. They are worried about you, because it sounds like you are stepping further away from the world and locking yourself behind closed doors, which is not a good sign. You cannot stay in a relationship because of fear that he might do something stupid. It's not fair on you, him or your children.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 October 2011):
This is a very big issue. You being a mother I don't doubt that you want the best for your children and that they have priority. But at the end of the day if he is talking like this already this will be a huge problem later on down the line if you did have children together, because your children you have now will feel left out and will end up hating you for it. You need to think about them and there future. You have been together a year now and he still hasn't warmed to the children this is saying something, if he wants the family unit with you well he should be making a huge effort with your children, to prove to you that it will work. But it doesn't sound like he is. Plus with him being insecure and jealous am sure it is hard on you do you really want to have that for the rest of your life? Listen to your family as they are speaking sense. They are worried about you, because it sounds like you are stepping further away from the world and locking yourself behind closed doors, which is not a good sign. You cannot stay in a relationship because of fear that he might do something stupid. It's not fair on you, him or your children.
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