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*nnocentfacadexx
writes:Hi, I have been experimenting with my sexuality recently, and I'm worried that by doing these things it makes me a bad person/is inappropriate for a teenager to do. The stigma surrounding sex and girls really bothers me, guys can go around hooking up with girls and they're considered normal, if girls do anything with guys they're sluts. Everything I've done has been with a guy I truly care about (and he me) and we have NOT had sex. I also at one point thought I was interested in girls and tried out a bit of stuff with a friend of mine (although nothing below the belt). But for some reason even though I wouldn't take back these actions I feel guilty, like I should be ashamed of myself but I'm not. How do I get over this?? Does having sexual experiences as a teenager make you a bad person? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2011): Dont feel bad about anything that u have done with your female friend . We all have been young and we all use to be teenages before and we all have explore diff sex partners before . I have done it when i was a teen . Your mom is just worry about u . Just practies safe sex . Even try masturbateing to feel like u are ready to do more
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reader, innocentfacadexx +, writes (13 October 2011):
innocentfacadexx is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks, I hope that's it I just don't want her to be ashamed of me if she found out! and i definitely am careful, I am cautious because I don't want to end up pregnant or with an STD
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 October 2011):
 I agree with Aunt Honesty.. your perfectly normal and experimenting with sex as a teen is natural. You should not have guilt.
Just be wise and safe about your choices... and if you progress further please practice safe sex and be on birth control.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 October 2011):
 Your mother is saying that to you, because she probably worries about you and doesn't want you to grow up to fast, you are still her little girl, she wants you to be safe and not end up doing something silly and ending up a pregnant teenager. She is just worried.
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reader, innocentfacadexx +, writes (11 October 2011):
innocentfacadexx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you! i just worry because my mom is always telling me that girls who have sex and fool around with guys are bad influences etc. and i feel like im betraying her whenever i do anything. but i don't regret them i just feel guilty and ashamed whenever she'll talk to me about those things
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 October 2011):
No it does not make you a bad person, and you should not be ashamed off yourself what so ever. As long as you are comfortable with what you are doing well then it is your choice, but am glad you haven't had sex yet, not that it would make you a bad person, it is just many young girls rush in to it and then regret it afterwards, so as long as you are being mature about it well then don't let it get to you. You have feelings for this guy so you are doing nothing wrong, and as for experimenting with your female friend, its all part of growing up, your hormones are all over the place and it can confuse you as to your sexuality. You are only exploring and finding yourself just like any other teenage girl so don't let it get you down.
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