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Should I tell my B/f about my dream?

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Question - (27 October 2011) 8 Answers - (Newest, 29 October 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, *hadow Rose writes:

Last night, I had a dream about me and my boyfriend making out. It was obvious we were going to do more in my dream, but I woke up before we got intimate.

I need my fellow ants and uncles to give me their opinion.

Should I tell my boyfriend about my dream, and see what he has to say about it, since we share everything with eachother, and I also want to strengthen the fact that yes, I'm going to remain a virgin till we get married, but I'm still not a nun xD

(I have nothing against nuns)

Or should I keep it to myself?

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A female reader, Shadow Rose United States +, writes (29 October 2011):

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Shadow Rose agony auntI never said I wanted to tease him.... o.o

Just want to turn him on, since its not like I'm denying him pleasure, he gets pleasure out of the things we do too. I'd NEVER be cruel to him, he's too awesome a guy.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (28 October 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntI would not tell him. it's a tease. and it's not only poking a bear with a stick.. it's waking a sleeping hungry cranky bear with a stick.

you even say you want to tell him to tease him and turn him on... that's just cruel.

its' being a cock-tease. truly.

write it in your diary and show it to him on your honeymoon.

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A female reader, Ciar Canada +, writes (28 October 2011):

Ciar agony auntI agree with the others, especially chigirl. This is just a dream and frankly not remarkable enough to share. And if you're planning to remain a virgin it might be best if you don't.

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A female reader, Shadow Rose United States +, writes (28 October 2011):

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Shadow Rose agony auntArgh, I'm not 16, I'm a week away from 18.

I hate how this site portrays me as a possible 16 year old!

Thank you for your opinionsm, though.

And he does plan on marrying me, he's always talking about it, and he was the first to talk about marriage. We just cant be engaged or anything till a year after we've graduated, or I'd be disowned! xD

But like, would it be sexy if I told him about it? We do indulge in other things, not any form of sex (oral/anal/intercourse), but for the stuff we do do, would telling him about that dream be too much, making him want to go all the way, or just enough so he knows I actually do think about those things xD

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (27 October 2011):

chigirl agony auntIt's like poking a bear with a stick, but sure, go ahead.

If you are waiting for you and him to get married may I ask if you are even engaged? Seems to be rushing it a bit when you are 16 and already planning to marry him, when marriage could be 10 years down the road. Sounds like a lot of pressure on a young relationship.

You and him will find a way to get closer in this time, naturally, rather than by you teasing him. Such teasings and jokes may just lead to sexual frustration rather than the romantic build-up you envision.

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A male reader, GhostChild Australia +, writes (27 October 2011):

GhostChild agony auntThere's nothing too big to worry about in that dream, he'll probably think it's nice that you're dreaming about him, so why not tell him?

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A female reader, Shadow Rose United States +, writes (27 October 2011):

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Shadow Rose agony auntGuess I should have been clearer.

Not really worried or anything, I'm just looking for opinions, would telling him this, knowing we wont have sex till we're married, be like poking a bear with a stick?

My goal is just to turn him on, pretty much. Like I said, I want to stay a virgin, but I'm not a prude or anything. I want to have a little fun, kind of build up my relationship with him so we get to the point where we wont be nervous or anything on our wedding night.

lol, I'm kinda long-winded so when I try to condense stuff, it comes out wrong!

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (27 October 2011):

chigirl agony auntWhats there to tell? You had a dream, people dream, and it's definitely not anything urgent that you absolutely should tell him. Unless you are trying to turn him on.

If you aren't planning on having sex with him then I see no point in telling him about a dream that in it's essence is a sexual fantasy of yours. What would you hope to achieve from it?

By all means tell him if you feel a need to, but I don't see a reason why he would find this interesting. It's your dream after all and you dream every night, so unless you always tell him what you've been dreaming I see no point.

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