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writes:Hello Cupid!I've been good friends with this guy for several months, and we talk/hangout pretty often. We have a lot in common (not to mention that we are from the same state), but deep down I have a crush on him. Even though we have this connection, I'm unsure about how he feels about me because he doesn't wear it on his sleeve nor has he outright told me that likes me. But he has been very subtle about it. For instance, if I plan on having lunch with another male friend, he'll label it as something more than just a friendly outing or become very overprotective if a guy approaches me. So, I'm lead to believe that he does like me, but I'm waiting for the first move. I don't want to get rejected or feel awkward if I decide to ask him: "Do you like me or not?"In the past, he has admitted that he's the one to ask women out on dates if he sees an interest, and is very persistent about getting the woman he wants. Thus far, he hasn't made any advances toward me so he can't possibly think of me as more than a friend, right?Please post your comments. Thanks!
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (27 October 2011):
Oh come on, this is 2011. Ask him to go to a movie or something, or bowling, etc. Don´t ask him if he likes you, he´s not going to say no! In fact he may worry that hes offended you somehow. If he feels like he could be the right guy for you then chance are he is and he is just as shy about being rejected. In fact your last sentence about him saying he is persistent about getting the woman he wants could be his subtle way of saying he likes you?
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reader, Eskim0  +, writes (27 October 2011):
I agree with all those posters above me. I was in a very similar situation to you actually. A while ago now I finally had the courage to leave an emotionally draining relationship, while I was going through the break-up process I spent a lot of time with my friends to keep my mind off things. I spent a lot of time with one friend in particular and later started developing feelings for him, and him for me. It was terrible at first because since we were best friends we were terrified of harming our friendship or breaking up our group of friends if things were to go awry, then one day we decided not to ignore our feelings and here we are...happy as freakin' ever. I have found my soul mate - and he was my best friend all along. Don't ignore opportunities because of fear of rejection.
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reader, humblewumble +, writes (27 October 2011):
 Definitely don't wait for this opportunity! You might regret it later on! If you're curious about it, and you're confused on if he likes you or not, ask him out! Ask him to go to the movies, or go out for dinner sometimes. If he likes you, he'll be sure to say yes if he does (:
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reader, Barrybaggs  +, writes (27 October 2011):
Please, just go for it! Put your feelings out there.
For all you know, he might think you aren't interested because you are on dates with people other than him.
Maybe he's shy to ask you because this time it means more and he's reluctant to be rejected.
Just tell him! And let us know how it goes.
Good luck
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