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writes:I have cut off a friendship with a married man because we are both attracted to each other and we both realized it should not go any further. We have had no contact for two months now. It has been hard but in that time, I have been trying to move on and work on getting my life back again. But just last week he has showed up again at my place of work and is starting to go out of his way to smile at me and say hello. I wonder why he is doing this after no contact for two months. Can anyone tell me why? And what should I do about it?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 he's trying to get you back. tell him to go away (in your brain) he needs to be a non-entity to you.
continue no contact and if he continues to try to bother you tell him you will get a restraining order. (this will alert his wife to his behavior without you having to tell her btw)
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (28 October 2011):
 Hi,
I just hope you continue being strong, and do not believe a word he says.
I am glad you decide to end, and trying to put your life back together. I am sure you deserve someone that can be yours only, someone that truly care, and love you. Someone that will respect you, be with you only, all the time, someone that can make you happy, give you everything you want. Someone that can be committed to you only.
Be strong...
Good luck with your new life, and hope you find someone that truly deserves you...
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 The 'why' is obvious. He's pursuing you again. He may have abided by the no contact rule hoping to give you space to miss him and change your mind. Continue to keep yur distance. It may take a while, but eventually he will have to give up.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (28 October 2011):
 I he smiles at you and comes over to say hello, I'd would just give him an icy look and turn away.If he asks why you are being unfriendly (which is undoubtedly how he would view it) tell him point blank you are not interested in resuming contact with him, and that you will ignore him, no if's and's or but's. He'll probably want to know why (but maybe not - and better not)so simply say it has ended, and that's final. Then stick to what you said. You will have given him fair warning, so he will have no excuse to try to be friendly......
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reader, boo22 +, writes (28 October 2011):
 Hi, Please don't read his coming back after 8 weeks as a sign that he is really serious about you. Nothing is any different for him than it was 2 months ago.He's back to test the waters. Do you want the drama? If he's got kids especially.There's better out there than this, trust me! x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 I guess he has giving up trying to stay away from you and he is wanting your attention back again. But if am honest with you the safest thing for you to do is to ignore him and carry on with your life. He is married and has a life of his own and he should not be going out of his way to grab your attention. Believe me this is not a path you want to go down. Just continue on with your life and try and keep him out of it, it is best for everyone in the long run. Good luck.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 October 2011):
 What happened was, you two broke things off and he thought he would be able to find another woman to provide sex for him.... but he didn't. That meant he was back where he started.... with just his wife to hang around with.... and that's where you came in in the first place. Soooo, not wishing to be patient, he is coming back to you hoping to resurrect the "thing" that the two of you had.....Are you interested in re-kindling the futile arrangement the two of you had? If "yes," then have at it. If you've learned your lesson - and the answer is "no" - then tell him to take a hike.... Simple, no?Good luck....
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