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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I have a question about a girl I like.We work together in the same office. She likes to leave silly drawings on my desk, and has even drawn on my hands and arms at times (in front of other people). She can be quite touchy-feely and likes to hug me or pretend shove me. She texted me to wish me happy birthday recently (she got my cell number off someone else prior to this). The texts were really informal, calling me by my short name and had lots of x's in them. She even sent a text (the last one) consisting just of x's in them. When I saw her a few days later, she had a birthday card for me too.She's been working with me a little more of late, staying behind late at the office to help me out. One of our colleagues was leaving for a new job, and the girl asked me if I wanted us to put money together to get a gift and a card for the leaver. She didn't ask anyone else to contribute to it, despite there being 2 floors of employees. We have very similar humor and laugh a lot when we're together. She remembers jokes I made weeks before and stories I've told her but totally forgotten myself. She just puts me in a good mood.Also, at a seminar, our boss was discussing relationships in the workplace, and the girl asked a question about couples and used me and her as an example of a couple!I should highlight that she has a bf, and so I would not make a move on her. However, when she does talk about him, it's quite negative and critical of him. Also, she is very friendly, kind and outgoing to everyone.My question is, is she being friendly, harmless flirting, or is it more?Any help is welcomed.Thanks.
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reader, Advice_man  +, writes (27 October 2011):
 I have had this exact same behaviour done to me!! She gave me the false impression that she could be interested in me: hugging in the elevator at work, meeting just the two of us outside workplace, enrol in an art class with me etc. When I made a move she acted like: “Oh, I’m sorry, I like you a lot but I can’t leave by bf!!” I found this attitude totally unacceptable and disrespectful. It’s been 5 years since then and I limited my conversations to her to just ‘Hi’. She keeps seeking conversations with me but I usually reply with just a ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Don’t ever allow women to mistreat you. Best wishes!
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reader, cinc71  +, writes (27 October 2011):
 I do have a male bff that i flirt with but it's all innocent and don't want anything more from him and made sure he knows. Maybe it's like that for her too
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reader, cinc71 +, writes (27 October 2011):
she seems to check her options with you. some girls flirts with everyone but if she doesn't flirt like that with anyone else, it looks like she's interested. you didn't mention your feeling about her. She shouldn't talk bad about her bf she shoud find someone else if she's not happy in her relationship. Maybe if you ever end up together she would do the same thing to you...
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