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36-40,
*ainia
writes:Hello, I am really having a hard time getting over my ex. I met him thru his brother, aand now it feels like i have to cut his brother my friend off, because things are, well nothing is happening with us. I was doing ok with not communicating with him for awhile, but recently saw him, and all the feelings came back. I think he is seeing someone. He has also told me that he wishes it was just me and him, I am a single mother, but he knew that when we got together. I know that I should not want to be a guy who does not like my child, but what is wrong with me? I am feeling like I want him back, and I know thats ridiculous. the only thing is that I was friends with his brother before him, and when I want to visit my friend his brother, he is always there. Also his birthday party is coming up on Saturday, and I got invited by his brother, but not by him. He totally ignored me. I also texted him, and he didnt reply. I am not going to go to the party, but how can I get over this, and still be friends with his brother, and not see him? Any opinions or comments are appreciated.
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reader, ShiShisAdvice  +, writes (27 October 2011):
 Sorry, but you can't be "friends" with his brother. Close the chapter on this part of your life. People are NOT in our lives forever, just for a moment.
Little bit of advice. You're not in high school anymore, take care of your child and grow up! Foster healthy relationships w/family minded men. Not school boys. Texting him?? oi!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 October 2011):
 There is nothing wrong with you at all for wanting him back. Yes it would be wrong for you two to get together if he wants nothing to do with your child, but still you cannot help how you feel. I can't see him changing his mind any time soon. So my guess is that you just need to accept that the relationship is over. It is going to take some time to get over him, and yes cutting all contact for a while will be the best medicine. Don't text or call him and cut all ties. As for his brother well if he is a close friend don't cut him out of your life as it would be unfair. But instead of going over to visit him ask him over to your house and ask him not to bring your ex up in conversation. As for the party you have made the right choice.
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reader, euphrasia  +, writes (27 October 2011):
hey i understand how you feel.from what i have gotten from your story, i can say that you need to forget this guy.just move on.its for your own good.i mean he knew you had a child when you started dating.somehow i think he is just using that as an excuse for being with you.there is someone out there who will love you and your child.you are a great mom because some women abondon their kids just to be with the man they love.i will adive you to cut all contact with your ex and if being with his brother will mean your bumping into your ex, then avoid his brother too.he is your friend so talk to him am sure he will understand.trust me cutting all contact will help you.it may seem hard at first but it will get better you'll see.
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