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writes:this summer i made a huge mistake. i hooked up with a guy and we both performed oral on each other. he didnt cum though. he had had a few oral sexual partners before, and had said he never showed any symptoms for stds. i have shown none as well but i am paranoid that i have one. what should i do? (also i am 15, and i want to make sure my parents dont find out, im soooo ashamed and i wish i could take it back)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 October 2011):
 it's highly unlikely you have an STD but for peace of mind you can contact a local planned parenthood clinic and ask them for advice on how to get STD testing.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (27 October 2011):
 One last thing i forgot to mention. If you do feel that you want to get a test done then here in England (i don't know if its the same in USA) we have something called Family Planning clinics its basically a clinic for anyone with family problems sex advice ext.
But if you want an STD test or free condoms or even an abortion you can speak to them and they will arrange one for you. They are very discreet and don't even ask for your name. I'm not to sure if they have a similar service in the US but maybe you would benefit by looking into it.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (27 October 2011):
Well there we go. You shouldn't of had casual oral sex with a guy you didn't know that well. If he had somthing like HIV it would ruin your life for ever. And even minor stds would prove to be quite embarassing such as Herpes or Gonoria.
And did you not use a condom, i know most people don't with oral sex but when its someone you ovbiously don't know that well.
If you have not expressed any symptoms then i suggest you try and calm yourself down and just be happy that you go lucky this time. I suggest maybe you wait till your abit older before you decide to peform casual sex with someone as number one your putting yourself at risk in catching an STD and it is kind of cheap.
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reader, Htsn47 +, writes (27 October 2011):
 It is possible you have an STD from this encounter, but it is unlikely. You say that neither of you show any symptoms, which is a good start, and that you didn't have any genital-genital contact. Many STDs are transmissible without any outward signs of infection, however. The only way to know for sure is to be tested.
You can read a little about STDs and oral sex at http://www.avert.org/oral-sex.htm. Very useful website for sex education.
Since you are so worried, why don't you check with your local Planned Parenthood or a similar organization for information about testing? Organizations like this take privacy VERY seriously and will be able to advise you if you can get tested without telling your parents. (I'm almost positive that they can do this.) They will also be able to give you information and talk to you about your concerns.
There is no reason to be ashamed or embarrassed about this. These things happen, and you aren't the first or last to go through this. You made a small mistake and most likely the only thing you acquired was some worry - not a disease. You'll be OK.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2011): relax...you don't have an std.
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