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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Me and my friend told our other friend's mom she was cutting herself..

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4744 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey, my friend and I told our mutual friend's mom that she was cutting herself and we don't know what to do! So last year the friend that's cutting herself, aka E, had alot of guy drama. She really liked this guy and a friend of hers told him twice and asked him out for her. He ... (423 words)

I'm pregnant and in love with 2 men!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - im 27 weeks pregnant and am in love with two men, one is obviously the father who i love as my friend the other i am extremly attracted to what do i do?. ... (35 words)

My new boyfriend doesn't make me feel the way my ex did

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I broke up with my boyfriend around 3 or 4 months ago because of a problem with religion. Well i love him still and i think im in love with him. I have a boyfriend now but the thing is that my boyfriend dont make me feel like that guy did and i need help in figuring out what to ... (148 words)

How do I proceed? I want him possible as a FWB, nothing more

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi there, I broke up with my bf three months ago and i am not ready to have a relationship. I met this guy one month ago and we slept together that night. One month later we went out and we had fun but for sure i do not like him this way but i find him really hot. We ha... (163 words)

Is it fair to be with this man considering my state of mind?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Alright, so, background story time. A while ago (a long enough while ago) I got out of a very abusive relationship and moved states. I had been with a man who said terrible things to me and on a few incidences was physically abusive as well. His best friend raped me and told ... (599 words)

Should I send a facebook request to this girl?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - ok this girl sometimes catches my bus and she works at this place part time just like me, we both work sundays thats the only time were on at the same time. she works on checkout and i work on a main department so i see her when she's on a certain checkout and when she walks ... (137 words)

Should I tell my parents about this guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay so I'be been going out with this guy for a while and things are great we both like talking to each other and we get along fine. He's around my age which is nice but.. there's one thing. I havnt told my parents especially my dad.. we're waiting to see how things go before ... (141 words)

Met him online, love him, but he wants sex before marriage

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Gud evening , my question is . I met a guy online he live in abroad so since then we have been chatting on november 2011 he propose to me he said he's coming back next month and we will make love before marriage and am not ready to make love to him before marriage and ... (105 words)

I hope to eventually get back together with my ex -- is it fair to other guys to date in the meantime?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - It's been a few months since I broke up with my (ex)boyfriend. I still have feelings for him, but he's not sure how he feels and we can't really make it work right now anyways. I want to move on, and part of that means seeing other people. He was my first serious relation... (122 words)

Email traffic with my first love suddenly quit?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - A few months back I started talking to my first love. It started off innocent and then got flirty. He told me that he couldn't stop thinking about me and I said the same. We made plans to meet but it didn't work out. Our emails started getting racier and involved pictures, etc. ... (84 words)

Should I risk telling him I like him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4748 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - This may sound really stupid, and i'm probably just making a fool out of myself by asking this, but never mind. There's this boy, that I like quite a lot, and i've talked to him loads outside of school, mainly on facebook but i have talked to him in person quite a few times ... (155 words)

I'm in my late 20's and haven't had a first date, first kiss etc!!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey, I'm in my late 20s and kinda struggling with idea that ive not had any my firsts', first date, first kiss, first boyfriend, first car, first time, stil virgin etc. I really intended them much sooner in early 20s but things happened, I tried catch up at 18-22, which i did ... (103 words)

We have an awkward past, do I go to her 18th birthday night out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid, I'm back with another dose of my disastrous love life and am (as always) looking for a bit of advice! So not long ago I wrote http://www.dearcupid.org/question/if-she-doesnt-like-me-in-that-way.html and I still have the same problem with the same girl. It's... (379 words)

Why will he poke me on facebook but not actually talk to me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Awkward warning: I slept with a guy twice, and now I can't figure out where this is going. Sleeping with him was technically cheating on my part (I'm seeing someone), so I know that really it shouldn't "go" anywhere, but nonetheless, I can't figure out where he's coming from ... (260 words)

Why do guys play head games with girls who like them?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - What's up with guys baiting girls who they know like them? Like, what's the point? I think it's just cruel, and rude. It's happened to me and a few of my friends: a guy who is not actually interested in dating a girl (or even sleeping with her) but knows she has a thing for him ... (115 words)

Could this be a sign of cheating?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am constantly flirting with my husband. I send him sexy text messages, I shower him with hugs and kisses. He very rarely sends any messages back to me, and I don't get the same affection in return. Is it possible that he is cheating on me?... (47 words)

She's great, but I'm not so sure about her son

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I am a 40 year old male and I have been dating a wonderful woman for the just over 2 years now. She is divorced and has a 15 year old son from a previous relationship, not her marriage. The father of the 15 year old boy is not in the picture at all. Here is my dilemma - ... (354 words)

I do not want our friendship, our scene or the show to suffer because of a spur of the moment event.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am in a musical show, and I had to perform a kissing scene with a girl who is a close friend of mine. Initially it was awkward between us but we eventually managed to do the scene without it being awkward. However, at a recent rehearsal of the scene between just the two of ... (225 words)

I just don't feel myself and I feel so alone through it all.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I really need some advice. In the past year I just feel like I don't know who I am anymore. At the beginning of the year I realised that my 4 year relationship was unhealthy and not really going anywhere. It took me til June to finally cut all ties (which I kno is for the best) ... (295 words)

Boyfriend of 11 months broke up with me out of the blue!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is bit of a read sorry, but I'd really like some outsider input on this. I guess I now can no longer call him my boyfriend, so my ex, let's call him A, broke up with me tonight. We're both eighteen, he graduates school tomorrow, I graduated last year, got accepted int... (1315 words)

In love with my best friend and now so confused after he gave me my first kiss!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hi every one well my story is kinda long so plz try to bear with it and thanks in advance so i am 17 years old a guy and in love with my best guy friend who is 18 i confessed to him last year and rejected me in a very hard way he hurted me so much he even told me that i should... (774 words)

This guy I met two weeks ago has put all other men in the shade!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't know what to do, I met this guy two weeks ago on a night out. It was probably one of the best nights I've had in a long time! It was because this guy made me feel like my life was out of a movie and treated me so well. The way he looked at me, kissed me, held me, talked ... (281 words)

Can sperm pass through fabric?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi. my boyfriend and i were making out so things got a bit heated which left us with just our underwear on, him withthin cotton underwear on and me with very thin underwear on and thin silky tights. Can sperm pass through all these? ... (44 words)

I really liked him, but after kissing him my attraction and everything towards him has gone! How?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Am I being silly here, I met this guy about three weeks ago and was attracted straight away, we had small talk whenever we saw each other but I didn't really think he liked me. Well last saturday I decided to just talk to him more than small talk and we ended up talking for a ... (225 words)

How can he just turn his feelings off for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently posted a question about having not heard from my boyfriend in a week. I ended up calling him that night to see what was going on and he ended up breaking up with me. He said that his feelings had been changing in the past two months and that he doesn't see himself ... (799 words)

Is it weird going off to university as a virgin?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is going to seem like a bit of an overreaction probably...and it's probably a silly question. I guess I'm feeling a little insecure about being a virgin. I'm only 17 and in my last year of school, but it's starting to look like I'll be heading of to uni with very limite... (414 words)

I have gay thoughts when I masturbate to straight porn, what does this mean?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Of late, when I masturbate, while watching straight porn, then gay thoughts also come into my mind which makes me confused and tense and don't feeling like enjoying it. Does it mean I am gay or bi-sexual or straight? or it happens with everyone while being in a flow? I always... (112 words)

Questions about relationship breakdowns.....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - More often than not relationships dont seem to end because the person stops loving you, but because of other factors. what makes people keep flogging dead relationship because there is love there still. what makes some people recognise that yes they love that person, but they ... (171 words)

Is it normal for our ex's to have a power over us? Is that a sign we should be together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - How much power do our ex's have over us? Is it normal for your ex to hold power over you still, and what would you constitute as positive power or negative power? (if there is such a thing). For example, would you take it as a good sign if the thought of your ex leaving and t... (137 words)

He keeps telling me I need to move on but comes back to me whenever he is upset! Now he is seeing my friend, should I just delete both of them out of my life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex and i broke up 5 months ago and he keeps telling me i have to move on, we decided to stay friends but hes always talking to me and kind of treating me like were still in a relationship, ex. (he still calls me when hes upset with anything, tells me he misses me etc.) i can ... (123 words)

I lied about my age to this 27 year old guy whom I've been seeing. Said I was 20, when I'm actually 18. Now what?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4368 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - im 18 and im seeing a 27 yr. old, i lied to him about my age and said i was 20, but were really starting to click and hes going to ask me to be his girlfriend soon because hes REALLY into me. I want to tell him before we get any more serious because i do like him alot, and im ... (113 words)

Should I be concerned about her comment about my cum?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - hi guys and galls. The other night me and my new partner were having sex and when i came she told me i gush rather than squirt. And its the most cum she had seen in one go. It felt great to me and no other partners have said anything before. Any reason for concern? ... (55 words)

It seems I'm never quite enough for a girl and I keep getting cheated on....what do I need to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello people, well I discovered I was with the lowest of the low, as far as people go, my current ex, as it's sadly becoming the way I classify my love life, was sneaking around with a guy and completely unaffected by the fact that she could sleep with me, and also be falling ... (276 words)

My ex is cute and flirty when he writes me so why wouldn't he keep the conversation going?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ok so my ex (we broke up 2 years ago) and I are friends and I recently became single and since then he was always really cute and flirty when we met or wrote. now he is at the armed forces now and since he didn`t write -not even to my birthday I guess he forgot is- I wrote him ... (141 words)

How do I go about talking to this guy more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've been frequenting the Starbucks near campus for the past few weeks when I have classes. I'm starting to recognize some of the baristas and they recognize me too. But there's one guy in particular. He's one of the new ones, and he's as friendly as any other Starbucks ... (219 words)

My marriage isn't working, I'm involved with a married woman and I cant even divorce my wife and be with her, because she says her husband is abusive and will harm us both.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I am 38 and I have been married for 19 years to a woman 2 years older than I am. My marriage has been difficult. We even separated for a year 10 years ago. Our sex life is poor and we have some really deep issues that we cannot compromise on. One of them is children. My wife ... (383 words)

Help! I am falling in love with my married online fling!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I am in a long-term relationship with a really great girl. However, I am not sure this relationship has potential for marriage. We hit that threshold a few times and it just didn't happen. I feel maybe, as great as she is, we just aren't meant for each other. I am... (378 words)

Why do cocky, unattainable guys go for me..the weird, purple-haired, fire-spinning girl? Is it because I seem unattainable? And why don't the "nice" guys ever fall for me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - I've never been the "popular girl" or the prettiest or anything like that.... in fact, I'm kind of weird (I'm nerdy, into cartooning and fire spinning and admittedly a bit of a stoner). I'm in ok shape but not a bombshell by any means. I dye my hair weird colours. I don't dress ... (263 words)

I'm worried sexting will lead to cheating, should I confront him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for a bit over a year, although in the early stages we went roughly two months without speaking. During that time, he later admitted to me that he had sex with a girl twice. I expected that he would have, so when he told me it didn't come a... (537 words)

Do cheaters usually regret cheating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - About a month ago my boyfriend of three years told me he cheated. He told me a couple days after it happened. This was the first time he had done it. As he was telling me he was very apologetic and he cried. That was the first time in three years I had ever heard him cry the ... (252 words)

How to be a good step parent. Are there books?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4750 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

- How can I learn to be a good step-parent to a pre-teen girl? Is there books, websites out there that can help me learn how to do it right?... (29 words)

How do you find a good woman when you know that you walked away from the best one 10 years ago?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am now 33 years old. I have been single for nearly a year trying to figure out why it is that I am still single. 10 years ago I had a great relationship with the woman of my dreams. I asked her to marry me during her church Christmas special. Of course she said yes. Well 6 ... (216 words)

What are your thoughts on love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello Everyone, I know this is a question that is asked a lot on this site but what do you guys think of love? Like, is it eternal or not? Is it limited by the era we are born in, the country we are born in, religion, etc? I mean, I'm just trying to wrap my head around how ... (91 words)

Am I controlling?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was analyzing my own behaviour the other day and I began to wonder if I was controlling or not. I dont have to know where my boyfriend is or what he is doing at all times. I am fine with him having a social life. What does bother me is not knowing about his emotional ... (173 words)

Never had an orgasm

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, out there. I am a 26 year old female. I have never had an orgasm, either clitorally, or vaginally. I have tried on my own for years, and with my husband, but I just can't do it. Has anyone else had this problem, and does anyone have any suggestions on how I can finally ... (56 words)

I love him... But should I let him move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I know this is long, but it's a good story. Well, my ex boyfriend and I have been friends for about 6 years and we dated for about a year and we broke up last May. First off I would just like to admit that I love him. I love him so much, and I can't fight it. He's always been ... (584 words)

Is he not over his ex? Or could he decide this was a mistake?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - around 3 weeks ago i met a guy at a club, swapped names and numbers etc and we have literally been texting non-stop since, and not even little texts, proper long, full on essays (mostly around 8 page texts). I'm not exagerrating, apart from when we have been sleeping there has ... (655 words)

My ex wants to reconcile but could she mean just friends or getting back together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - For some of you member's on here you may remember my old questions I asked over the summer and last spring. For those Who don't know me and my gf have broken up over the summer after a period of drifting apart due to her seeing another guy on the side. Last august we had our ... (371 words)

Self-conscious because he seems to pay attention to the parts of my body that need toning

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

17 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - For men (and women who can relate): When I am intimate with my boyfriend, he tends to grab onto my "cushions" - I'm a bit of a voluptuous girl (130lb, 5'5) and I guess it makes me uncomfortable that he is grabbing onto my thighs or tummy because it brings my attention to the ... (98 words)

No interaction since I friended him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - There is this guy that I like at work and I added him on facebook over a month ago. He accepted the friend request the same day. I also got some signals that he may feel the same way about me as well. However since he accepted my friend request on facebook, he has never said ... (148 words)

I don't need mother's permission, but I'd like to have her approval

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

17 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I'm headed to my boyfriend's parents' house in a few weeks to do the whole "meet the family" thing. I'm staying there with him. Here's my problem. I know my family will have a peoblem with it. I'm 21, he's 26, and we've been dating for 2 years, but I know my mom w... (135 words)