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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone, I'm headed to my boyfriend's parents' house in a few weeks to do the whole "meet the family" thing. I'm staying there with him. Here's my problem. I know my family will have a peoblem with it. I'm 21, he's 26, and we've been dating for 2 years, but I know my mom will not want me to leave the state/travel with my boyfriend, stay with him, etc. I think what I'm asking for is advice on how to talk to her about it, because I know I don't really need her permission, but I do feel personally that I need her approval (which probably won't happen, but I need to at least feel like she won't hate me for this). Thank you all for your help! Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Am pretty sure that she will not hate you for it. She might not like it but at the end of the day you are an ADULT and you are free to live your own life. So sit down with her and tell her what your plans are. Tell her you would appreciate her approval because you love her and you want to respect her. If she has any problems with it then talk to her about them as an adult and see how they can be resolved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2011): Now why would your Mother hate you for leaving to visit his parents?Does she 'approve' of the BF?If she doesn't support your relationship with the BF, why are you hung up on her approval now?Or is this more of an emotional Mom can't be without me and I feel I am letting her down by leaving her, dynamic?Because I just don't see how taking a visit for a a few days/weeks is enough to warrant the termination of a Parents love and duty to her daughter?So what is the history of your 2 year relationship that Mom wouldn't approve you leaving and traveling??
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