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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Do emotionally abusive people really love you, but need professional help, or do they not love you ?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Do people who are emotionally abusive really love you, but need proffessional help, or do they not really love you ?. I need to get out of a relationship with my emotionally abusive boyfriend, but i'm finding it hard to let go. Can anyone help ?. I've even stopped going out ... (99 words)

He never listened and now his family and friends have run out of way to say and how to support him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Once upon a time a man and woman meet, man and woman became good friends. The man is married to his first love they have three children, but the man starts to fall in love with his friend, and vice versa, though for a while nither says it and they just go on, never admitting it ... (477 words)

Boyfriend will only sleep on the couch, not with me

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4783 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - please help my boyfriend and i have been together for 9 months now been staying together for the past 3 months, in the past month or so he has stopped sleeping in the bed with me and will only sleep on the couch. there has been a few times where he has been in the bed wat... (269 words)

When you get the vibe that someone likes you, is it usually accurate?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - When you get that "vibe" that someone likes you, is it usually accurate? Particularly if the person you're getting the vibe from is a friend or is someone you see and interact with fairly often?... (35 words)

B/f will not perform oral sex on me but he did for his ex!

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

16 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - My boyfriend of 2 yrs WILL NOT perform oral sex on me. He use to do it to his past girlfriends, especially this one girl who he had been going back and forth with for like 6 years. He even had an old poem on a blog site about how he wished he could taste her again. After h... (320 words)

Does he have feelings for me or is he just tryin' to sleep with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So some of yu may have already read the question about the guy I called D. But other things have been crossing my mind. He acts as if he might like me. Yea, according to people who answered my other question about him, he finds me "sexually attractive" but does he like me as a ... (114 words)

He's back and I don't want to fall for him again!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4783 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - He is back and I think I've fallen for him again! The guy I used to like for 2 years ignored me and acting like a major b*****d to me so I learnt how to get over him. Now he is back, he has apologised sincerely I'm afraid my feelings have come rushing back. Is there anyw... (261 words)

My girlfriend is in need of a confidence boost... might a sexy photoshoot do that or will it do the opposite?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I want to give my girlfriend a boost to her confidence. I tell her regularly that she is beautiful and gorgeous, but she is still self-conscious of the size of her body. She isn't obese by any means, but she is admittedly a LITTLE on the big side. She has told me that she wants ... (300 words)

I saw his father in the bathroom and now I'm mortified!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

16 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - I am completely mortified. I was going to my boyfriends house, he greeted me and it just so happened that I really needed to pee. Well he has a bathroom right next to the front entrance, a little one. The door wasn't closed and it was dark so I pushed it open only to find his ... (140 words)

I feel like his psychologist, not his girlfriend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Aunts! Your help will be greatly appreciated :) I started dating a good friend of mine a few months ago - we met at college a year or so ago, and we really hit it off from the start. We have a lot in common, including - oddly enough - that we both suffer from depr... (679 words)

Is it common for men to invest so much and then stop contact after 2 weeks?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I need advice. Please. I had 2 incredible dates with this man. We kept in touch almost every day for 2 weeks. He brought up lots ideas for future dates and complimented me a lot. Not just on beauty but on my personality, jokes, interests. I thought there might be a ... (171 words)

What comes first, friends or girlfriend?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4783 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 19 and my boyfriend the same. This is his first relationship, but not my first. We have been together almost 5 months. I have a problem with him putting his friends before me. I value friendships myself, and think friends are important, and you shouldn't ditch your friends ... (519 words)

Why can't they just get divorced?!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4783 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - OK....so a bit of background, I have been with my partner for just over 2 years now...we got together at the end of falling out of his marriage... Since then they have been relatively amicable as they had dogs together and are both animal lovers so see the dogs as their ch... (353 words)

My girlfriend is afraid to commit because of past relationship, what can I do to help her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - my girlfriend says she needs space cause she is afraid of getting hurt and thinks she is destine to be alone i dont know what to do? i will give u a little back ground I am 33 she is 45 with 4 kids. her 1st husband was an alcholic abusive jealous control freak. and her last ... (794 words)

My ex said I was too perfect! What am I doing wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What is wrong with me? anyone been through this before? I think I am a good girl, I don't cheat or lie to a guy. I don't sleep around. I think sex is better when your a relationship and in love. Am a nice girl, sweet and caring. But not a doormat or a pushover. But my... (179 words)

When single he masturbated 2-3 times a day, but now that he is with me sex is rare! Why?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My Boyfriend suffers from depression and he pretty much has for most of his life so he says. He is now seeing a dr. to help him out with this but my question is before we dated he told me he was an excessive mastubator so his sex drive always seems like it was there. He would ... (201 words)

My best friend tried to have sex with me, but I don't want to! What do I do, who do I tell?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi I'm 16 and I have a guy friend who I joke with a call my best friend. Well he knows me better than other people and we used to be close till he got a girlfriend who hates that I'm his "best friend". Last year december me and my best friend (bf) made a bet that if I won the ... (299 words)

No man wants to get married, they can't stay committed to one woman, and ogle my female friends! Thats what HE said!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - First off, this is a bit long so thanks to any for reading! Im not sure if I am overreacting or not. My boyfriend and I are approaching our 5 year anniversary and have lived together for over 4 and a half years. He swept me off my feet, convinced me at 18 to move in wi... (795 words)

I feel it is my duty to stay with her. But I don't fancy her any longer!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend now for 5 years in total (though we have split up twice in this period for about a year each). When we first got together everything was amazing and we fell madly in love. After 2 years things started to go pear shaped and we ... (337 words)

Boyfriend gets a girls number at the bar and lied before, deal breaker?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So I have a major decision to make. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and I just found out he's quite the liar. Back in January, he went out with his friends and told me they were going one place but I found out they went to a bar. I only found out cause ... (303 words)

Questions about contraception....

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am going away with my boyfriend next month and I am really excited! :D I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months officially now and it is going great! We never argue and it's well... perfect :D Recently I went on the pill, we are both virgins but I just wanted to be 100... (165 words)

Why did my ex's sister contact me to tell me my ex and his girlfriend are over for good, and they are happy with this outcome?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age - I'm a little perplexed about a situation and would like to here what you all think. I have split from my ex-fiance for a little over a yr. now and it has been a very long and hard journey trying to move on from the devastation. My ex became involved with someone els... (527 words)

Do you think this might be a sign that we'll get back together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - dear cupid, soo, this is going to be kind of long, buuut hopefully there's somebody here who can help me. it's been three weeks since my boyfriend (we'll just call him craig) and i split. he's the one who broke up with me, and even though he's said that he still loves me... (598 words)

Every time things start getting steamy he backs off!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So i have been in an 8 mth relationship with an amazing guy! We get along so well and really know how to encourage and support eag other emotionally. Our major problem is sex. And i can wait for actual sex but we haven't even gotten past first base! Ive tried initiating but ... (102 words)

He deserves so much more than me...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've just moved away from home to study at university. I love it and the freedom it gives me. Over the summer I began dating this wonderful guy who loves me to pieces and I love him back. It sounds awful but I'm not sure if a relationship is what I want. Certainly whenever ... (345 words)

She said to me during sex "would you just finish" after only 10 minutes! I always thought lasting longer was better....

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - hi their. I have confidance issues when it comes to how long i last during sex. I always please my partner though oral and hands before sex as she doesnt orgasm through intercourse. Once she had cum we moved on to the sex. I was prolonging cumming for as long as i could. We ... (123 words)

How do you know if you have outgrown a friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F) age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I was wondering if you knew when it was time to slowly let a friendship go? How do you know that you have outgrown a friendship? Recently I found myself having negative thoughts about a friend, and it bothered me. She has been a close friend of mine for a few y... (342 words)

How do I approach the guy I like? He is in a band and I don't want to seem like a crazy groupie!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - so theres this guy that I have been watching from a distance for a couple of weeks now. not in a stalker kind of way but he is in a band that often plays close to where i live and i go to watch them when i can. for the last few weeks i have just developed this thing [ i dont ... (426 words)

I hate my boyfriend's son and ex!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I really hate the fact my boyfriend has a 15year old son and i hate his ex even though i dont know her.I have very strong hate feelings towards them and i hate it when his son comes to stay.We have been living together for 2 years and i have my own 14year old daughter who i ... (92 words)

Premature Ejaculation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Im 16 years old and bi. When i masturbate, it happens fairly quickly. Is this a sign a premature ejaculation? I need to know. I usually come in at about 30 secs. Is this normal?? or is it a phase? thanks :D... (42 words)

Trust issues with an otherwise perfect boyfriend... help

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok so i i've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year.. before we started dating i said i didn't want to get into a relationship because i've dated a porn addict in the past and been cheated on several times (not to sound like the victim here! just bad taste in men, or should ... (1064 words)

My wife loves a 65 year old man!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4783 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm 26, my wife's 26 also . we spend 3 years together Last night she said to me she had something to confess. I listened as she aadmitted to me she love some one a 65 -year-old man and that it was basically just she is crazy about him, and that 5he said she also kissed........ (323 words)

He only has one friend who clearly is in love with him, am I being selfish for wanting him to stop talking to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi, my boyfriend is older than me and has no real friends, the only person in his life is his German friend/ex, I say ex because they've had sexual relations before we met, he told his wife a few years ago he was gay and she learnt to live with it, she knew he was meeting gay ... (541 words)

I love two men and I am so confused!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I was in a relationship with my partner for 7 yrs. It was a very rocky relationship. I loved him dearly from the start but he was extremely volatile and unpredictable and had lots of bitterness left from his past relationship. On the whole he didnt treat me to well, he was a ... (359 words)

I am not sure what to make of signals from my ex-teacher. I am gay and he is married?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So, I'm 18 and graduated high school this past spring. I am in college now, but still live in my home town because my college ran out of housing for me. I live relatively close to my high school and visit often to hang out with some of my friends who still attend that school or ... (377 words)

Should I tell him how I feel?

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16 November 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - i'm 15 male i am gay and i really like this guy he's also 15 we hang out a lot and i really strong feelings for him i'm not sure if he's gay but he smiles at me a lot he real friendly towards me but i'm too nervous to tell him how i feel i haven't come out to anyone yet i ... (90 words)

My wife's son is tearing us apart! What to do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - i have caught my wife's son (21 year old) with large quanities of skunk weed 3 times now, the first about a week after we were married 2 years ago,it turns out that he has been reported to the police on 5 occations by 3 different people on our estate for dealing drugs from my ... (230 words)

Relationship 90/10 on my side. And thats a generous 10 for her. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - This is my first post here on this site, I'd like to thank all the users who help out, as best they can, with the situations brought forth by others. So my situation; I've been with my girlfriend for 1 year and 4 months. This is most certainly the deepest relationship I'v... (888 words)

What are the best ways to incorporate caring for a dog or cat as part of improving one's emotional health?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Pet ownership is cited to have many benefits for humans. Owning a pet can help reduce stress, improve your emotional health and may even promote faster healing. What are the best ways to incorporate caring for a dog or cat as part of improving one's emotional health?... (47 words)

Does she not want me to succeed? Any suggestions to get her back too, if you can?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys I am 19 years old ,and I had been in a relationship for a little over a year until recently. She broke up with me a couple of days back cold heartedly. Info:she has been my friend since childhood. Her and my parents get along pretty well.She proposed me last year and... (532 words)

Uncomfortable around our house with teenaged daughter walking around in just underwear!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4783 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Our oldest daughter is now 15 and tends to walk around the house in just her bra and underwear or nothing at all. My husband and I get on her about it all the time, but she doesn't seem to care. Will she grow out of this or will it get worse? Is this normal? ... (55 words)

Drifting apart after just 1 year!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

- I worry that my husabnd and I are drifting apart after only 1 year of marriage. After work he spends alot of time alone in the office he set up at our house. He frequently gets up at 5:00 AM to "pay bills" and goes into his office and surfs the web. Tonight after dinner when he ... (133 words)

How can we start over without taking a break?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm wondering how me and my girlfriend can start over (without breaking up or having to take a break). We started off good for a few months, and then so many negative things kept happening to our relationship. It might have been a year of just bad things happening. Now we argue ... (146 words)

My boyfriend is working over Christmas - again! I'm furious, help please!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi guys, please help, i am fuming! My bf does shift work and he has a responsible role. This year will be our first proper Xmas togther. Let me explain...last year he decided to work a night shift on Xmas day. This meant i got to see him for a round two hours xmas day, where i ... (1172 words)

He feels he needs permission to kiss me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone. Im sort of unofficially dating this guy. We're at the 'getting to know each other' stage, so we're not going out just yet. Im 19 and he's 23. I've known him since January but he's always been just a friend (but we always sort of liked each other but nothing ... (457 words)

Can the contraceptive pill cause an upset stomach?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been on the birth control pill for two and a half months, the first month I was completely fine but after my first period I generally had an upset stomach on-going for a month. I'm curious to whether this could be due to the pill before I go and see my doctor, I have been ... (299 words)

My boyfriend is extremely lazy, has no ambitions in life and his personal hygiene is a big issue!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4377 days ago

16 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - My boyfriend is extremely lazy and has no ambitions in life. He doesn't do his schoolwork, puts everything off till last minute, has no eagerness to do anything. When I come over his house, usually I would want to go somewhere but he will instead want to lay down in his bed or ... (340 words)

He's continually embarrassed me and abandoned me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have moved across the country, away from all of my family, for my boyfriend. We moved from Florida to Oregon so that he could have steady work to support us and our 3 children. When we arrived here after a week of being on the road with a 5 yr old, a 4 yr old and a 3month ... (211 words)

I might have made a decent friend, but ...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - I think that I may have FINALLY made a decent female friend. It's been such a long, long time since I've had a loyal, sincere one. She's my boyfriend's best friend's ex girlfriend. The ONLY thing that's putting me a little off is the fact that she likes to go out drinking and ... (145 words)

Whats the deal with my ex? One moment she tries to talk and says she misses me, the next moment she disappears!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (M)

- Hi I'll keep it brief. Im so confused * 6 weeks ago ex dumps me after 6 months. Likes me but not falling in love!! * 2 weeks later she txts Hi, u ok? I reply briefly Im ok and then silence from her * Then 4 weeks of no contact * This weekend she txts Hi, u ok? I don... (266 words)

I'm confused! He's cancelled 2 dates and now doesn't respond to my texts

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

16 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone sorry if this long I just really need help trying to figure this situation out I met a man 9 month ago I moved into a flat near him in fact 30 seconds away any way he asked me out I said yes he had been single 6 month after splitting up from someone from a long term ... (281 words)