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*ngelika08
writes:I am constantly flirting with my husband. I send him sexy text messages, I shower him with hugs and kisses. He very rarely sends any messages back to me, and I don't get the same affection in return. Is it possible that he is cheating on me?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (18 November 2011):
 While anything's possible, I would tend to believe that he's just like the majority of us men(clueless when it comes to the subtle inuendos of relationships) What women percieve as "come-ons" many of us see as just being cute. A more frontal approach is usually needed for us to understand. Like the old joke about how to win over a man is show up naked bring beer and do not block the TV. Yeah, I asdmit it. I've been married 47 years and still miss the subtle statements or comments.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (18 November 2011):
 Perhaps sexting does nothing for him?
It sounds like he's stressed or depressed with the insomnia and lack there of sex life.
Have you two been fighting a lot lately?
Does he have an involving job?
Was he laid off from work?
Has there been a death in the family? Someone he was close with?
It could be the strain of the holidays. Does he get along with his immediate family?
I wouldn't jump straight to cheating. Instead, talk to your DH about the lack of sex. Find out what the root of the problem is, and seek ways to reduce his stress.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 November 2011):
 ah that's easy to solve... have him "tuck you in" then he can go back to what he was doing... that's how we cope with my earlier than his bedtime.
the issue comes up if he's staying up later than you to avoid being intimate... if that's the case there is a bigger problem to be addressed.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (17 November 2011):
 I think to call cheating so soon is a bit extreme. It sounds to me that he has issues showing affection which is actually a fairly common problem. Sit him down and talk to him about how you are feeling but don't mention cheating. Talk to him about what you feel is missing here.
There is too much unknown here for cheating to be assumed. Was he affectionate before? Also could the sex life have dropped off because of some other stress on him?
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reader, landomando +, writes (17 November 2011):
No its not. Stop trying to put stuff in your head and make stuff up. Its just going to make your relationship difficult... Idk y u want to add drama to your relationship. But your just going to make things worse. start looking through his stuff and start to panic and not trust him. That is not a good reason to suspect he is cheating. Its just going to start something, and whats the point. no point.
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reader, Angelika08 +, writes (17 November 2011):
Angelika08 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing that stands out most to me, is that our sex life isn't what it used to be. He stays up late, and then we he gets to bed, he says he is too tired to have sex. I've suggested that he come to bed earlier, but it seems like it just goes in one ear and out the other.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 November 2011):
It's Possible... anything is possible but just because he does not text you back or give you affection in return does not mean he's cheating.. he may not like to text and he may not be an affectionate person.
what else is happening or not happening that makes you think he's cheating?
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