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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How do I change my life style? and make new friends? And get help for my panic attacks?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 19 years old ( turning 20 soon! ) and I want to do everything See the world, go out and meet guys make new friends and smile more and be happy then later in life settle down and get married and have kids and have an even happier life. But I panic over everything. You name... (125 words)

Extremely insecure about my small breasts! I want to go out with my friends and not feel inferior, because they get more attention than I do. I want to feel like a sexy woman!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4747 days ago

20 November 2011 (F) age 30-35 - I have small breasts and this makes me feel insecure, especially because my ex was more into bigger ones. I have also noticed that most men prefer big ones. I know looks supposedly don’t matter, but men, even other women, seem to make such a big deal of them that it’s hard not ... (532 words)

How do I move on? Lost all my friend. Broke up. Is it my fault that my ex now drinks so heavily and smokes weed? He never did those things with me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay... This has been something that has affected my daily life for almost a year now. I'm fourteen I am a freshman and I start on the varsity basketball team. I have two parents who love me and have never given up on me after the horrible things I have done. I have an all ... (508 words)

He has a new friend, a girl, who he texts with kisses! I feel rejected, used and unwanted!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help! My partner and I have been together for nearly 5 years and we have a beautiful 2yr old son together. But lately things haven't been right. Recently he has made a new girl friend, I don't mind usually but this time I feel different about it. I know I shouldn't have, ... (129 words)

Isn't 6 months enough time to get over a break up?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there... so... i broke up with my bf 6 months ago. we were together for 5 years and i know i did the right thing, 'cause he didn't treat me well... the thing is, i've been having a rough time forgetting him... he was my first bf and i know i did everything to make it... (120 words)

Living a forbidden love and we just want to see each other!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, so me and my girlfriend are living a forbidden love. Both of us are madly in love, but were of different age 5 yrs apart I'm graduated from high school she still has two yrs to go. I recently moved to the city two hours away. We started tlkng after I had moved up here a ... (192 words)

I want to talk to this stunning woman on the train but don't know how!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4746 days ago

20 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok most days going into work I see the most stunning woman on the train, and I can't seem to get to talk to her. I've tried the old sit opposite and try and make eye contact and smile stuff, but she's always got her head buried in The Times (or on Friday's The Metro). ... (122 words)

Girlfriend has trust issues and checks my email, facebook. I don't like this!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi! My girlfriend seems to have some trust issues. I got an email from a kind of exgirlfriend and when I saw it on the mailbox my current girlfriend was right next to me and saw it too. The following day she read thoroughly my mailbox looking for every message I had with that ... (285 words)

He's called it quit 4 times! How do I cope with this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - How should I deal with my partner who has called it quits for more than 4 times? How should I interpret the following said by my partner:"There are times when I don't feel like talking to anyone, including you"... (40 words)

Girlfriend thinks I'm not manly enough

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have an amazing wonderful girlfriend but it gets extremely annoying and upsetting because she can't see me as "manly". I don't like football and she thinks I'm not a man. I tend to show my emotions more and I'm a little sensitive and she thinks I'm a pussy. I don't... (118 words)

Girls' night out - girlfriend comes home drunk at 4am

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4746 days ago

20 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend went to a nightclub for a girls' night out last night, came back at 4am and spent the first hour of today throwing up. How worried should I be? The poster for the event she went to depicts a young lady sitting down in a chair, with her panties around her ankle... (57 words)

Has anyone got any quotes/sayings that they live by or feel inspired from?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4252 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I know this is a relationship website, but I am getting a quote painted on my wall above the mirror, I want it to be something that when I wake up and look at everyday, I feel inspired by it! Something about either, life, success, our future, chances, that kind of thing. Yet, I ... (100 words)

My boyfriend has pictures of his EX still saved on his phone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and im really into him, i thought he was really into me but untill he was showing me his pictures on his phone and 5 pictures of his EX popped up and he hid his phone but "before i could see them".. He told me he doesnt like/talk ... (81 words)

My friends will laugh when they find out I met him on a dating site

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, i have recently met my new guy on a dating site. My friends will laugh if they know where i have met him,but he has no embarrassment and refuses to lie about it. Also me and my ex broke up over me being on dating sites. Even though its nothing to do with him on this ... (81 words)

I'm afraid to date and feel used!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone. I need help on this issue. I was married at a young age and am new to dating at the age of 30. I decided to use a dating site since I don't go out much. I'm very well educated, great shape, have assets, but stupid when it comes to dating. The first man happened to ... (392 words)

A never ending cycle of us fighting and in the end he says its always my fault

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't know what to do. I've been seeing someone way older than me, and at first I thought he was amazing and everything..but maybe because he puts off himself that way. He thinks he knows best about everything and thinks very highly of himself. He is a musician and has gotten ... (823 words)

If my boyfriend says he loves me then why would he almost cheat? if he did it once would he do it again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - so i have been wanting to find out about this for awhile now If a guy says he loves you and he shows that he loves you by like taking care of you,giving you money to get things you need/want, spending time with you. make's sure your happy. cuddles ect. then why would he almos... (292 words)

Should I report my sister for fraud?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My sister is claiming child benefit for a child that my mother is raising. She still lives at home and pays for no rent or and living cost for herself or her child and she is also claiming single mother's allowance. my mother minds her child while she is at work and she pays no ... (156 words)

I cheated and now feel disgusted!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - my boyfriend did not come to see like he usually does yet he knew l had wanted to be with him. so a good guy friend of mine from childhood showed up, we started drinking and all. basically we ended up having sex, me being the initiator. after it, l pretty much hated myself and ... (106 words)

Squeaky bed spoiling sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, We have a baby in our room and a squeaky bed! Squeaky bed either wakes baby or makes sex less enjoyable as we have to be more careful. We have a metal bed and wanted to know if people have had the same problem. Do we have to get rid of our bed and replace it with a... (93 words)

I feel quite used, how could I have not noticed he was having an affair? with me!?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hey i think i'm in alot of trouble. i've been seeing this guy, lets call him toby, for a good month or so and he's very sweet, kind, funny and good looking, i thought i had found my perfect guy.. he's always been busy with work and stuff, and because it was shift wo... (362 words)

All I do is think about sex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm certainly not the first and I won't be the last to have this problem, but I can't stop thinking about sex. It's terrible! It started all of a sudden at the beginning of this month, and since then I haven't been able to concentrate on anything else. I've hardly done any work ... (262 words)

Is it me or the pregnancy that is causing such an abnormal behaviour??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - l am 24 years old and two months pregnant. problem is l sometimes hate my boyfriend for no apparent reason, l will ask him not to contact me or come and see me but ofcourse he does not listen, he will come and see me or call me. l then tend to insult him or say things uncalled ... (103 words)

I like this married guy but I'm not sure that I want to be a mistress!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hey, this is the first time writing to one of these agony aunt things so i'm sorry if this is long winded. long story short, a guy i'm attracted to has asked me out. he's cute, funny, intelligent.. everything i would want in a guy but never seem to find.. but there's a ... (279 words)

Is it normal for someone 50 to ask their parent if its ok to take a bath?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - do you think its normal asking your parent that you will take a bath at the age of 50?someoene i know ask this question everytime want to take a bath in the night. i find it so weird? for me its wrong because personal hygiene.. why ask other people. maybe if its term of money ... (61 words)

My boyfriend's overbearing friend has too much time on his hands! What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - My boyfriend has a guy friend. We both have known him for a while. Problem is, he's very overbearing. He dropped out of college, and does nothing but work at his part time job and skate/smoke/drink/play video games. My bf and I are full time college students. Now that's not the ... (292 words)

How should I deal with my newborn's father?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a gorgeous 2 month old daughter and she's my world. My past with her father isn't so great and I haven't even talked to him since I was 16 weeks pregnant, so basically forever ago! He treated me poorly and said hurtful things, as well as some threats. Afte... (510 words)

Why are some men so selfish?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Why some men so selfish?. My partner and i have 2 kids together he is 42 and i am 36. Our relationship is very dull, we never go out as a couple, we have little to no sex life to which i put down to him not having a sex drive. He never treats me or buys me anything even at ... (293 words)

Still not over the fact that my B/f cheated on me with his ex, 2 yrs ago. I cannot help but compare myself to her..

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My bf basically cheated on me emotionally (just not physically) with his ex about a year into our relationship. We had a massive argument about it all and he suggested he would drop all contact with her to make things work with us. He did this and has done it now for 2 years. ... (144 words)

Do I go with the one I am more comfortable with but is less attractive ? Or the other guy who is opposite in every way?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm in a bit of a mess and I don't know what to do - any help would be appreciated! There is a guy I like A, he is sweet, funny, smart ect. ect. We have known each other vaguely for a year or two but never really had conversations until a mutual friends 18th. We got int... (441 words)

I cant believe he's treating me like this, when HE was in the wrong!!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - thought i really knew a guy i worked with. we got on really well and i liked him a lot but ive found out hes basically lied to me for the past 2 years. ive helped him enormously and stopped him getting sacked-helped him with major financial problems but all along he lied to ... (186 words)

Should I carry on having fun, or should I settle down with a nice man?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm 28 and have recently been getting out and about hitting the clubs a lot. I've also met a few guys from internet dating sites. This is the first real time in my life that I've been going out a lot, and meeting new men regularly. I'm really enjoying it but yes, sometimes ... (259 words)

Am I right in leaving this mess of a man? Or should I stand by him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. I have separated from my bf of four years, the father of our child. He has a drinking problem, and he has lied to me so much since we been together. He also was sacked from his job last week. He was getting help, but gave up twice coz he thought he could do it by himself... (200 words)

What's with all the mixed signals? Was she getting close to me just because she was drunk?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 18 and recently started a new job. I have a female colleague a year younger who invited me on a night out with her friends. I met them in town and as it got busier we all started holding hands to avoid getting seperated. Funny thing was, I found me and her were still ... (144 words)

Is it real or just a rebound?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So, my boyfriend and I (of about 16 months) broke up recently. About a month and a half-two months ago. About 3 weeks after breaking up with him (yes i did the breaking up) I met this new guy, lets call him Brad. Brad has been super sweet. I told him that I don't really want to ... (318 words)

I'm not sure if I want to wait till marriage to have sex now!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 19, going on 20, and my boyfriend is 20. Now, I'm the kind of girl that always believed in the "no sex before marriage" rule, and pretty much raised to believe sex is a taboo thing that is only for married couples, to make babies. But recently me and my bf have gotten ... (238 words)

We started out great, then the fighting started and now I don't know what we are!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I met this girl a few weeks back and we had an instant connection. Things moved very quickly and rapidly and we spent practically every day together from there on out. The first two weeks were incredible. We got along amazing! Then we hit this brick wall suddenly. We began ... (166 words)

If I tell him I like him will it destroy any chance of a potential romantic relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm in love with my best friend. I knew him since the beginning of the school year he helping me a lot since im new at school and that made me fall for him even more. He is the person i been dreaming about ever since i started high school He is perfect to me and i dont know wh... (141 words)

What does it mean when he says he has his walls up?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4750 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - What does it mean when a guy says he has his walls up?... (13 words)

Is he just marrying her out of comfort? Ignore his feelings? if he felt nothing then why did he try to avoid me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So one of my prior classmates in graduate school and I were in the same class . He is 40 I am 25. Anyways throughout the class we got to know each other and I realized that we had a LOT in common, and in a way we spoke the same "language" I opened up a lot and he became impr... (379 words)

After my past experiences now I hate women!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a really good relationship with my mother and sister so I was raised on the belief that women were wonderful creatures. My dad was a junkie and in 2007 it was his undoing. So in reality, I should respect women..HOWEVER.. I have been with 3 women.. Let's start with ... (607 words)

Should I call him? Do you guys think those were signs of attraction?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4700 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So i have a question: I started this sales role at a company not to long ago and I developed an instant crush on my boss. Many people would not think I wooud fall for my boss because of my look. Not to sound obnoxious but a lot of people describe me model like and a pre... (667 words)

It is ok for a 19 year old to date a 15 year old?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was wondering if it was okay for a 19 year old girl to date a 15 year old boy. I'm really worried for a friend of mine. He's obviously underage and still a minor and I'm sure there are legal implications of this but she seems so happy with him. I don't want to hurt her. S... (62 words)

My wife is so crazily jealous about my ex that it is ruining our marriage!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife (Erin) is super jealous of my ex girlfriend (Maggie). Erin thinks Maggie is super hot, popular, totally unstable, etc. The thing is though, she's mediocre looking and is a total loser; while Erin is at least a 9/10 and the most attractive thing about her is she is not ... (221 words)

Am I immature for feeling like I can't be friends with my ex boyfriend...?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I had a horrible break up with my ex boyfriend for almost 2 years months ago. It was like a few days after my birthday he broke up with me so imagine how long it took for me to start pulling things back together. So during our time not speaking to each other he replaced me with ... (353 words)

Huge Crush on Husband's Friend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a crush on my husband's best friend/ band mate, lets call him Tyler. I can't stop thinking about him. My feelings for him have even helped me to start writing music again. I don't want to feel this way about him. My friend says that I can't just make it go away. I us... (329 words)

Would therapy help my self esteem issues?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - I've been cursed with low self esteem ever since I can remember. Probably from age 9 to above. Part of it had to do with my appearance (fat, pimply, braces, nerd) and the other with how people treated me because of how I looked. I went through 2 immigrations (Russia to US) I ... (196 words)

How do I figure out what person I want to be?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F) age 30-35 - Do you ever feel sometimes even when life is going so good and you have great friends and family and your future is right in front of you. You can still feel lost and not know who you are? Because that's how I feel. I've never understood what people meant when they said t... (207 words)

If a girl has kissed say 12-13 guys in two months, what kind of girl does that make her? Would you want to get involved with her?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - If a girl has kissed say 12-13 guys in just about two months, what kind of girl does that make her? Would you want to get involved with this girl, or is it better to not go there? I ask because I met a girl who I got talking to in a club and I asked her if she was going to... (262 words)

21 years old, but still concerned about parents' reaction to dating

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

20 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I am 21 years old, and I'm in my last year of college. When I was in highschool and through the first few years of college, I sort of dated a few guys but I've never really been in a serious relationship. I have been dating my current boyfriend just under a year n... (156 words)