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writes: I've never been the "popular girl" or the prettiest or anything like that.... in fact, I'm kind of weird (I'm nerdy, into cartooning and fire spinning and admittedly a bit of a stoner). I'm in ok shape but not a bombshell by any means. I dye my hair weird colours. I don't dress sexy or anything... in fact I make a point of NOT drawing that kind of attention to myself, because it's not my style, and it's impractical. Technically, I'm the type who is supposed to be forever alone. And yet looking back on nearly all of my relationships in the past, it seems to be the cocky, unattainable types who end up falling for me. Guys who are in bands, have tons of friends and like talking about themselves.... that type. I'm not even that interested in getting a boyfriend right now, I'm too busy enjoying other aspects of my life. And although they're usually good-looking and charming, a lot of these guys turn out to be egotistical douchebags in the end. "Nice boys" and "sweet boys" and "shy boys" almost never go for me. So, question, for any who feel they can answer it: Given their pick of probably any girl they know, what has possessed these cocky guys to go for the weird, purple-haired, fire-spinning chick? Is it because I seem unattainable or something? Something has definitely changed since I was a teenager and popular boys who didn't know I was alive liked pretty, un-offensive preppy girls :/ Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (18 November 2011):
 Yep, your a challenge.. but also they probably think your like them, outgoing with a love of excitement. The "nice" guys are probably frightened of you, and think that you won't like them. They also probably don't like the "stoner" bit, and think you'd be too high maintenance and will want to go out all the time.
You have some strange views, what do you mean your Technically supposed to be alone forever? Is that why you dress like this, a defense to keep the boys away? No one is meant to be alone, no matter how you dress or look, there is someone who will think that you are cute.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 November 2011):
 Shy boys almost never go for anyone, if that makes you feel better. You're the one who have to hunt them down. A lot of "nice guys" are in fact not nice as much as just shy. Shy guys are often mistaken for nice as they are always sooo careful not to step on anyones toes. It's a hit and miss with them as well, but if you want to give them a try you will have to be the huntress.
You probably have a fun and amusing and fascinating personality since guys approach you. You don't have to look like a playboy bunny to get guys once you are adult. And band members, well they like to think of themselves as ARTISTIC, and your funky style and hair probably makes you look artsy as well.
Or, alternatively, they want a more withdrawn and quiet type who wont steal their shine in the spotlight. Insecure men wouldn't want to share the attention, but rather have their woman stay at home while they go out to be greeted by the crowds.
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