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writes:My ex and i broke up 5 months ago and he keeps telling me i have to move on, we decided to stay friends but hes always talking to me and kind of treating me like were still in a relationship, ex. (he still calls me when hes upset with anything, tells me he misses me etc.) i can tell he still has feelings, how im i suppose to move on when hes holding onto me? now hes sort of "seeing" a friend of mine who thinks im trying to control him and break them apart because im concerned with his well being as a friend. Should i delete them both out of my life, or just try and pretend i dont care?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 November 2011):
 I would stop taking his calls and take a break from her. You are not going to move on it you keep letting him rope you back in.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (17 November 2011):
 Don't cut him off completely, but start to give him the cold shoulder, and create some distance between you. When he calls, say your too busy to talk. If he says he misses you, laugh and say, that's nice, but I've moved on now. I can't miss someone else's boyfriend, I'm too busy sorting out my love life. Don't know why you broke up. But you agreed to be friends, but friends don't have to be so close, or so dependent on each other. Grab some space and distance from him, and keep yourself busy meeting other new friends. The girl aint your problem, if she can't keep him happy, that's a problem that they have to fix. You guys need space right now, you need time to heal.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 November 2011):
You need to wake up. He doesn't have a hold over you - you are allowing yourself to be treated like a doormat and you are in denial about how he feels about you.
You are so sure that he has feelings for you. But he doesn't. At all. What has happened is that he knows you still have feelings, and he uses you when he wants to get something. When he's upset, he calls. When he needs to talk, he calls. When he needs to boost his own ego, he calls. And now, he's even seeing a so called friend of yours.
The signs here are glaring - you desperately need to take control of this situation and get away from him. He's the one who has moved on. He's the one who's controlling. He doesn't care about you at all.
Get rid of him, and I think you can afford to get rid of this so called 'friend' too.
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