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writes:I am now 33 years old. I have been single for nearly a year trying to figure out why it is that I am still single. 10 years ago I had a great relationship with the woman of my dreams. I asked her to marry me during her church Christmas special. Of course she said yes. Well 6 months later I felt like I needed to do more and be more and was unfortunately bored with her. I broke it off and went on my merry way. I have been through countless relationships. None of them worked out. She has always been there for me through anything but only as a friend. She married, had 2 kids, and got divorced due to his infidelity. Looking back I was so childish and just wanted to do my thing. Now looking back I see that I had the best thing I could ever want. I even sat down and talked with her about this. We are only friends and that is all we can ever be now. Due to the failed relationships I have had I feel like I have nothing special to offer to another woman. I feel like a failure. How can I step forward and find a good woman to love and be loved by?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (17 November 2011):
 "I needed to do more and be more and was unfortunately bored with her"
That was the truth then.. don't revisit the past and try to rewrite it. You did what you had to do, you had to grow and experience things, you would have been unhappy if you stayed and she would not have her beautiful children.
Love is difficult... some people have it and throw it away, and some people never find it.... Tons of good women out there, you need to be clear about what your looking for. Look back at your "countless relationships", is there a pattern to why they didn't work. Is there something about your character which means the women won't stay. All the answers and the guide to getting what you want is deep down inside you somewhere.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (17 November 2011):
 Hi,
I wish I could give you an answer to your question.
It's not easy to find love. Things happens for a reason, and you shouldn't be thinking about the past, and feeling regret. Not everybody marry the love of their lives.
I think you should keep a positive attitude. There's absolutely no reason for you to feel this way, and feel like you are a failure. You are still a very young man, and I am sure when you least expect you'll find the one. Just stop putting yourself down, thinking about the past, the failure relationships. It's all part of life, we all go through the same process. I am sure when you find your special someone, you'll be a much better partner. I guess, the solution is to stop searching, and enjoy life. When you feel good about yourself, you will feel happy, and therefore you'll attract the right woman for you. Things will start falling into the right places. Be positive.
Good luck!
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (17 November 2011):
Hi,
I wish I could give you an answer to your question.
It's not easy to find love. Things happens for a reason, and you shouldn't be thinking about the past, and feeling regret. Not everybody marry the love of their lives.
I think you should keep a positive attitude. There's absolutely no reason for you to feel this way, and feel like you are a failure. You are still a very young man, and I am sure when you least expect you'll find the one. Just stop putting yourself down, thinking about the
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