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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

It started as a rebound. Then we broke up. Now we are trying again.Can this relationshionship survive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age - What are the chances a relationship will endure if a couple break up because of character differences and unacceptable behavior (alcholism, etc.) but, get back together because one or the other is lonely? Is it possible in the long run, if the person who was unaccepting of t... (141 words)

An ex has approached me. Should I let my Bf sort this out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4788 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so here is my problem.. i have a boyfriend of a month and nearly 2 weeks, but one of my ex's has started saying things to me. He is an ex from about two years ago. He was saying things like, "i used to get lost in your eyes" and "i cant stop looking at you" he also said ... (147 words)

My Bf's best friend has shown interest in me. My Bf has cheated on me. Can I Repair things now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4783 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - well that's the whole story , i lived a love story for about 4 years, then i've been cheated on by my boyfriend with my best friend, which made me feel the worst feeling in my life !! i was literally broken , then came the new boyfriend , he was like an angel sent by god to supp... (557 words)

Cadet crush. How can I get him to talk to me more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So I am a new cadet I started pretty late and there is a chief that I really like who is there. He is probably one of the coolest guys I have every met. I dont see him often because hes a really high rank and doesnt teach classes and the other thing is that hes a bit older than ... (283 words)

Wondering for the future: Would a 5yr age difference between a 23yr old woman and an 18yr old guy be wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4788 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm wondering what people think of 4/5 year age gaps in relationships? To give you a bit of backstory - I used to suffer with really terrible anxiety. At 15 I had a sort of breakdown, dropped out of school and just stayed at home. For about 4 years straight I only left... (358 words)

How do I keep my family close while I keep my boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4788 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi everyone. this isn't a major issue, but i don't know. Amd I know there are many kind ,caring agony aunts here who maybe could spare some thoughts and their experiences. i'm 19 yr old girl .i'm the only child to my parents ..they love me dearly and look after me like a pri... (820 words)

Should I have a woman to woman talk with his ex? he talks to her every day. What should I do about him not answering me when it comes to her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met my boyfriend almost a year ago. Our relationship moved pretty fast, we seemed to click right away and began spending all of our time together. While he did disclose that he was separated and getting a divorce he failed to tell me that he had only been for about a mont... (760 words)

How do I get over it? Nothing hurts more than realizing she meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to her.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

11 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my girlfriend 2 months ago. It was my fault we broke up. I take full responsibility. I was drunk went on the computer and talked to this girl inappropriately and she looked through my stuff and found the conversation. We broke up and for that month we talked all ... (362 words)

Depression. I need help to allow me to have a better life. Any tips, strategies, Advice please?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi i just wanted some advice about depression. im in my 30s still living at home and dont work. i feel my life is lacking, and as im gay i will never have the whole family thing like husband and kids. i I'm too scared to give birth anyway and this is a real big phobia for me. ... (154 words)

How do I convince my husband to relinguish his rights to my daughter?shouldn't she have a chance to be free of abuse and have a better childhood than I did?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband of five years has an eleven year old and didn't want any more kids. so when I got pregnamt he forced me to abortion. Then one day he found out he had a 16 year old and brought her into his life. she didn't want me around and started talking about how I mist... (187 words)

Am I asking too much for handmade birthday cards from my grandsons?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age - I have two sons, 32 and 30 years old and I have two grandchildren, one is 4 and other is 1 year old. It was my birthday today 11/11/11. Earlier this week I asked my sons to make, with my grandchildren, a birthday card for me with the date 11/11/11 on it and to put something ... (153 words)

I don't want to end up getting attached to someone who I'm going to end up having to take care of like a baby when I'm older.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4788 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, To make it kinda short and sweet, I'll just get right to the point. I've been dating this guy who's two years older than me for about four years now. I'm 18, he's 20. Being a Senior this year at high school, it defiantly got me thinking about our r... (221 words)

Anyone have experience with a partner that has abandonment issues?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - We've been together a year. My boyfriend has significant abandonment issues (mother left him for several years as a child and father passed away). I do everything I can within reason to ensure he feels secure in our relationship and to prove to him that I am not going ... (143 words)

Now I wish I hadn't sent those nasty drunken texts!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I been seeing a guy for a while, purely on a sexual basis but it's usually only when he wants - yes I do realise he is just using me but it doesn't really bother me too much as it is the best I and he (well he claims anyway) have had. Anyway he admitted that he (his words) was ... (139 words)

Where can we go to get him a girl and what can I do to help him stop being so negative?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4788 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My friend is 21 years old and he constantly moans that he can't get a girlfriend and that every girl he's been with only lasts a month!He keeps asking me whats wrong with him and I lie to him saying I don't know but the fact is He's a very needy and negative person. There was ... (282 words)

I have recently met a lovely guy, I like him a lot and we have a lot of chemistry... but he's married!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone:) Just want you opinions on something... I have recently met a lovely guy, I like him a lot and we have a lot of chemistry... but he's married. He has been separated from his wife for a few years and they are in the process of selling their house etc and tyin... (214 words)

I have a boyfriend but have a major crush on another boy! Please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi! Okay, I'm having an issue. There's this boy. Let's call him Tom. I used to be bestfriends with his sister and I used to have a MAJJOR crush on him. I was like IN LOVE with Tom. I thought he felt the same about me, but then people spread rumors about me...and well long story ... (230 words)

Why did I get used and how do I resist him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I did something really stupid, it's a typical issue really. I slept with this guy, I'm 18 and he's in his early 40's. We get on really well, we work together and he used to make me feel special, he would hang out with me, hug me etc. we kissed on several occassion, but I ... (221 words)

Do I go for a man who has long term suitability or one who I feel attracted to?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4788 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - In such a dilemma!! Im 23 and hav met a lad who is 25,get on so well with and he has a really good job, a nice car and would def be a good long term partner. I am attracted to him but not as much as a lad i work with and this is my problem, he is only 17 which seems so young an... (104 words)

Have I loved him or strung him along? Do I wait for him now or try and move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've got an issue, and I'm not sure what to do. Really quick five year history... When I was 16 I was in a relationship with a guy. His mother passed away two months into our relationship, and I helped him as best I could through that. A year later he decided to go on a ... (317 words)

I can see myself falling for him but do I need to cut my losses now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello. I just need to write this out and check that I'm not being stupid/naive/optimistic/all of the above, and hopefully get some sound advice. Having split up from an unhealthy relationship earlier this year, a few months back I decided that I should get back out there a... (277 words)

Her own family says she doesn't love him, put she puts off divorcing

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4619 days ago

11 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok to make a long long story short I am in a relationship with a girl for about a year and a half. At first there was alot of decit on both our parts including both of us being married. Well i am divorced now and she is seperated from her husband. We are at the point now to ... (168 words)

Could a sexual friendship with soon to be X sister in law be wrong?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

11 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I'm currently separated from my wife, her brother is also separated from his wife. His wife and I have been secretly communicating by text, email and have met at a resturant to talk. I am attracted to her sexually. I think she could be sexually attracted to me. Both our ... (281 words)

I'm uncomfortable getting naked, will it turn him off?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok. So my boyfriend invited me over to his house next week. His parents are going to be out of town and we're going to have the house to ourselves. I've gone upto second base with him but I think he intends to go further this time (not that I have a problem with that). We don't ... (184 words)

I don't want him to realise I've fallen for him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I recently got a new boyfriend. He's much different then any other boy I have dated. He's really awkward around me because he likes me. We haven't done anything more physical then kiss and makeout 1 time. Its such a difference from the experienced men I've dated. I like it ... (173 words)

My wife wont have anal sex, should I go to a prostitute or will I regret it?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello friends, i know i have been several times here on DCupid issues about that issue, but still i want it to get this help from you! Please! Here it comes: i wish i could get intercourse in the anus in my wife but she doesn't want it anymore, we did it only two times. What ... (75 words)

How do I tell my co-worker that I love him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Please help me. Im in love with a guy at work. The problem is we both work for the same company but in different branches. And we meet only once a week when he comes to visit the branch where i work. I dont know much about him. All i want to know is how can i let him know that ... (66 words)

My Gf wants to get a tattoo of her ex who died and it worries me that I'll always be a second choice in her life

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4788 days ago

11 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi i am in a dilema my girlfriend wants to get a tattoo of her ex 's name who died it worries not cause im jealous but because im afraid of being her second choice and not being able to make her as happy as he did i dont wana tell her not to get the tattoo but at the same time ... (71 words)

Ideas for a first date? Would it be too forward to invite her to my apartment to watch a hockey game?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4788 days ago

11 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - alright so there is this girl in one of my classes at university and i really want to ask her out. We have gotten to know each other a bit in the 2 1/2 months that we have been in class together, we usually end up sitting next to each other and get paired up during activities. ... (165 words)

I want to go back to being straight. But I'm confused that I may be bi-sexual? How can I be sure I will end up with a girl?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - hello everyone. i'm 31 year-old, male and i'm confused if i'm a bisexual man, gay, or still straight man. i've been into a relationship with a guy for 6 years. we started as friends became close and we just love each other. he gave me extra attention and he's always been ther... (707 words)

My ex is driving me crazy! I hate having so much hate inside me, please help

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - ok, i have written about this a number of times. but its just driving me crazy. we've been broken up for 5 months now. we are at the same university and stay at the same campus and go to the same church. i have tried forgetting him and moving on. i can say that it was totally ... (487 words)

I'm in love with my dad's 70 year old friend and I don't mind if he's out to have fun with me, because I still want him!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi, I truly have feelings for someone who is about 70.He is my dad's friend.At first, he showed an interest in me.then he managed to get me be alone with him.He said stuff like, he's never taken to anyone like he did to me.He was so romantic,and even kissed me.when I refused,... (155 words)

I would hate to fall for her and find out she's playing me.Am I a convenient fantasy or a genuine love interest?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

11 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I met a woman online in a chat room. It wasn't any sort of "Adult" chat room. It was just casual. She lives one state over from me, but we have never met. At first we were just friends, but over time our conversations became more intimate and sexual. She morphed from being very ... (513 words)

Why does my friend think I will be old & lonely? It hurt when she said that..

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Why does she think I will be old and lonely when am older? kinda hurt.? I met this older friend at work and there was this guy there that liked me and I liked him. I left work for college now. But the guy has stood me up 3times and I've deleted his number and mo... (266 words)

He'll help his ex who is ill. He chooses to encourage me to pay off my debts. Is he just being kind? Am I making things out of stuff that isnt there?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok I know this may sound trivial but given the past couple of months in my LD relationship I dont want to mess anything up. I have posted quite a few times on here and always got good advice. I saw my LD bf last week and had a fanstastic weekend. Lately I have been very ins... (681 words)

Have I been an idiot for trying to restart this? Or does it look like I have a second chance?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4790 days ago

11 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I would like to get some ideas about the following. Yes, I already know I am a fool. No need to tell me again. About 6 months ago I have been dating a woman. We went out for 5-6 times and I had the idea everything was going fine. One day she send me a text message telling me ... (158 words)

The guy I've been dating isn't very well endowed. Any tricks/positions/hints/anything to make sex more pleasurable for me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help ASAP! The guy I've been dating/hooking up with isn't very well endowed. I've been trying to add things such as foreplay into it but he is quite terrible at fingering me but is very very talented in eating me out. So, just wondering, what are some ... (77 words)

Is My ex being cruel and manipulative? Please help me. What actions shouldel I take to get him to stop harassing me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I recently (2 weeks back) broke up with my bf of 1.5 years cause he cheated on me and this is not the first time. From the day i broke up he has been callingme every day. He is a sweet talker and manipulator, so i didnt pick up even one of his calls. Today i picked up... (163 words)

An old school friend recently revealed romantic feelings for me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello everyone. I need your advice because my emotions are all over the place right now. Back in school I had a guy best friend and we remained so for 3 years. 8 years later we are both married but because of our friendship, remained in contact - phone contact all this whi... (155 words)

Is it normal not to have any interest in sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - 20. Never interested in sex never feel like it dont care about it. Is this normal?... (16 words)

Tonight I learned my husband may be cheating again

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband's iphone beeped tonight with an SMS coming in, while we were in the car together. He was driving, so i just picked up the phone for him, and happened to notice a female name that i didn't recognise, and a message saying "is it ok to txt you now? Feeling a lack of ... (405 words)

My girlfriend says I'm boring

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I need help with my girlfriend She constantly says I'm boring and annoying She hates whenever I talk about stuff she does that make me mad and annoyed because she says that's not manly and that she wants a man. She also says I'm boring when I know I'm not I like to have fun... (163 words)

Before I consult a doctor I'd like feedback from other women about 'the pill'

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys! Any advice will be much appreciated! I'm a little worried. Just as a note, I know I should ultimately consult my doctor, but I would really like other women's advice and experience. I have no one to ask or talk to. I started new birth control this past month. I we... (361 words)

Still in love with my ex, my life is in ruins. I need some perspective.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

11 November 2011 (?) age 26-29 - i feel stupid even writing this. as if i've let myself down. i split with my boyfriend of nine months, three months ago. im 16 years old,and had only known him a year. surely i should be over this now. i've been telling myself everything under the sun that could possibly... (640 words)

Should I get back together with my fiance?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4789 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i broke up with my Fiance on Monday. We have been together for four years and i have always thought ive been really happy. however im currently in America studying until christmas ive been here since August, and since coming here ive realised how boring my life actually... (339 words)

Concerned my boyfriend's cross-dressing fetish will take over our relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend recently confided in me that he has tried dressing in women's clothes. I admit that I had already guessed when I found oversized women's shoes in his cupboard, along with makeup and a few items of clothing. I told myself they belonged to his last girlfrie... (213 words)

Should I wait until my boyfriend returns from Afghanistan to break up with him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey everyone, Quick back story: My boyfriend is in the Marines and he is currently deployed to Afghanistan. We've been together for a year and a half and had been friends about 5 years before we started dating. The problem: I started a care package drive for his batta... (584 words)

I feel as if I'm just his bit on the side...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

11 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hey, im a bit fed up tbh, i admit i do get boys attention but its always for one thing. there have been 3 boys, where we met up and everything and later found out they had a gf. and then the others text met up get want they want and then ony call went they want it again. ... (286 words)