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writes:There is this guy that I like at work and I added him on facebook over a month ago. He accepted the friend request the same day. I also got some signals that he may feel the same way about me as well. However since he accepted my friend request on facebook, he has never said hi or tried to interact with me online at all. My friend told me that I should initiate contact with him and maybe say hi, however im afraid to do so because i do not want to be humiliated, embarrassed or rejected. And even if I initated contact, im not so sure what I should even say, at work we just say hi, nothing much, so maybe thats why he never said anything, im not sure, and im hoping maybe that someone can help me with this.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 It sounds to me like you don't really no him that well as a friend yet. You are still just casually saying hello to him and being polite. You say you don't want to humiliate yourself by starting a conversation over facebook. But just because you say hi to him does not mean you are declaring your undying love for him. If you want to get to know him better then do that. If he is online sometime just write to him and say hi and ask him how his evening is going. There is nothing wrong in saying that and it is just starting a conversation. Nothing wrong with that at all. Just try and get to know him a bit better and see where it leads to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2011): He could just be one of those people who like to 'collect' 'friends' on his facebook and then said 'friends' collect dust. I don't understand that type of mentality myself.This man has no way of knowing you are attracted to him more than he is even capable of reciprocating.The only way you can erase all doubt is to be forthright and say you are attracted to him and would like to get to know him better.I advise against this though because he IS a fellow co worker and the majority of Canadian Employers do have a professional mindset and expectation to NOT have inter office romantic relationships. The drama of it all is so unprofessional so wisdom says, just don't do it.Leave it alone until you or him change jobs and if you are him are still single- then maybe be brave enough to invite in the possibility of a romantic relationship. Its just a part of the fear of 'rejection' verses the possibility of romance when it comes to declaring your feelings to another.
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