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writes:I know this is long, but it's a good story. Well, my ex boyfriend and I have been friends for about 6 years and we dated for about a year and we broke up last May. First off I would just like to admit that I love him. I love him so much, and I can't fight it. He's always been the one guy I EVER loved. The worst part is that I was the one who broke up with him, which I deeply regret. But his feelings never changed for me, he loves me too, and we're both very open about it. But we can't be in a relationship because my family and I had to move away, across the country. So unless we tried LDR, it wouldn't work.He and I get along so well, it's like we were made for each other. But the only complications we have is the unclean breakup we had that really screwed both of us up, sometimes it can get very awkward when it's brought up.Well, here's my problem: So, last month my ex started talking to this girl named Karla. They were best friends for a while, but they stopped talking because she kept trying to "make a move" on him. But they became friends again. I, personally, never met her, but I've heard many stories about her. She hates me, because I dated my ex, her crush. So she would talk about me behind my back and say TERRIBLE things about me to him. He constantly told her to stop, but she wouldn't. NOW they don't talk because she tried to have sex with him, and my ex isn't the type of guy to sleep around. He wants to save his virginity for someone he loves (which he promised to me).Currently there's this new girl that I found out about... Her name is Leah, and she's been flirting a lot with my ex. But, apparently, they hung out last night, and she asked him on a date, which he said maybe.Here's where I need help. My ex plans to move here, or at least visit every me every now and again, and I said that if he does, then we can try to make a relationship work. But now I'm concerned about this new girl. First of all 3 days ago he told me that he was still attracted to me, and he can't stand other girls around him. Second of all, she's one of those girls who tries to be scene, and fails miserably at it, and he hates scene girls (which is basically a colorful emo). Third of all, I don't think she's a nice girl, she looks kind of mean. And finally, I know the girls out there, they're only out for one thing... I'm worried, I don't want him to be stupid, and he is very stupid. He's an emotional wreck sometimes. Whenever I flirt with him, it makes him confused then he'll spend days being depressed about how he's confused about "us", which I'll reassure him about my feelings for him.Should I move on?I don't want to, but I'll always put him first.I mean, is it even fair for us to promise ourselves to each other?Should I just talk to him and see if I can reassure him that I'm the one for him?I feel like I should fight for him.
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reader, Trinklett +, writes (18 November 2011):
 He should be allowed to date other people and so should you. It doesn't help that he has all these built up emotions he can't express. When he dates other girls it gives hom a clear perspective of what they're like, can compare in his head and help him know who he truly wants to be with. You should do same. Love is a powerful emotion if you are the one for him, he will be back. And I think this guy loves you
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2011): “If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be.”
WAY easier said than done, I know! But if you try your hardest to let go, you'll have a lot less worries. I mean, still keep him in mind, but try not to worry about other girls. He says he wants you, so you have a good chance imo
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