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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Crush on a male friend, but unsure if he feels the same way

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I really want to kiss my guy friend. We've only known each other for a couple of months, but we have quite a bit in common and I have such a big crush on him. I'm crazy about him. You have no idea how badly I want to kiss him. But I don't know if he feels the same way, he's ... (107 words)

My hair was messy after grocery shopping and my husband automatically assumed I was cheating?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So i went made groceries today and when I got back home my hair was a little messy (i wear clip on extensions and these are really old and ready to be disposed of) but when i got home my husband asked why is my hair messed up which made me mad because I knew where his mind ... (196 words)

Can my boyfriend have an STD he doesn't know about, and transmit it through oral sex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4789 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Although my boyfriend's never been officially tested for STDs, he's pretty sure he's clear. From what I know, he hasn't had many previous sexual partners (although he didn't always use condoms because his then girlfriends were on birth control, and apparently sex feels better ... (142 words)

I think she likes me, she said my name and I didn't even know she knew my name

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Quick question. I sit near this girl in college and I think she likes me . Wen ever I look her way she smiles and we started small talkin recently . Today, without having to even look at her she says "hey *my name*" like she was going out of her way to speak. I wasnt sure she ... (67 words)

One for the guys: is sex with someone new still special when you've had previous partners?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Gentlemen of DC, when you're in a relationship with someone new, is having sex with them still a special experience even if you've had previous girlfriends? Apologies if this comes across as a rather daft question - I'm feeling a bit insecure about the fact that my boyfriend's ... (88 words)

When and how do I tell him I have feelings for him when I don't think he feels the same?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I've decided to tell the guy I love that I have feelings for him, he just so happens to be my best friend. I think that it is best I tell him as I want no regrets but can't take the thought of him being with another girl. I don't think he still feels the way I do but where, ... (83 words)

I think my 30 year old work associate fancies me and its making me uncomfortable

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

7 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - hey i'm 17 i need your advice. i work in a sports centre helping teach people martial arts, mainly self defence to police and all that stuff. anyway i work closely with the head instructor and have done for nearly 2 years now. the head instructor is 30 years old, tall... (429 words)

Should I wait for his text? Or text him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Should I initiate a texting conversation with this new guy? I'm 15, and a few days ago i went with a good friend to her friends house. I met this really nice guy there, we'll call him Z. He asked my friend if I had a boyfriend, she said no...why? And he said he thought I was ... (92 words)

We work together and ride the same bus but when is the best time to talk to her? best time to talk to h

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hi everyone e we have seen each other around where we both work as she works every sunday and i work the odd sunday. the one time we came face to face was when i walked passed her and we both smiled at each other. we also did the same one time before then in the bus stati... (137 words)

Is my friend jealous of my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone. I've got a slight issue that has been bugging me for a few weeks now. I have a large group of friends at college and in that group 4 people have said that they have a crush on me (3 guys and 1 girl). This didn't bother me although I still don't understand what it ... (270 words)

I'm afraid he'll think I was false advertising! He doesn't know that I wear a weave!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi.. Ok.. I am a light skinned black woman who has always had issues with her hair. From my complextion you would assume i would have managable hair but i dont. It doesnt grow, and its always looked rubbish. So i add a big lod afro hair piece and it looks so nice and natural! ... (208 words)

How can I stop worrying about money so much?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My family doesn't have much money. We have enough just for the basic needs. I can't help but feel overwhelmingly jealous when I see that other people who are no better or smarter than me in any way have so much more than I do. I keep thinking about all the great experience... (245 words)

What's going on with this girl?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - So had three amazing dates with this one girl I met online. Pretty much once a week for the past 3 weeks or so. Things were going smoothly up until this past week haha Third date last sunday ended pretty well, with a make out outside of her car when I dropped her off.... (296 words)

My fiance is beginning to feel unattractive because I don't want sex often, is there something wrong with me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a 22 year old college student and I never want sex. I have a wonderful fiance who is starting to feel unattractive because of how little I want/need sex. :( When we do have sex, it's amazing, so I'm thinking the issue is on my part. Is there something wrong with me?... (53 words)

Help me please! I like them both...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Just over a year ago, I went out with my best mate (lets call him Jim) for a month after liking him for a long time, but literally nothing happened. After we broke up, we drifted apart for a while but recently we've come closer again. I now like this other guy (let's call him ... (282 words)

How can I get my husband to want sex more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Im worried my husband doesnt want to have sex with me he says he is tired all the time we do have sex on a saturday and its just the same nothing changes i love him fancy him and lust over him its just that i dont want a predictable sex life i have tried talking to him and he ... (76 words)

How can I cover a bruise on my face?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a bruise on my face and i am worried as i have to go out on Wednesday and i don't want people to notice it. i have very short hair so it might be hard to hide it that way. i could put make up on it but i'm not sure if it would still be visible. does anyone have any ... (71 words)

How can I make my son see a civil partnership is a bad idea?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I asked a question at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-son-wants-a-civil-partnership-with-his46.html Some updates: It wasn't my son's idea originally - Steve planned it, and their girlfriends are in the dark about it. But my son felt he had to go along with it. I know... (177 words)

Is it possible to keep weight on your butt and breasts but not your face?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - For the last 4 years, I have been in LDR and we meet after every three months or sometimes six months. Otherwise we keep it going through phone. There is 400 miles distance between us. When recently I visited her, after eight months, she gained so much weight that she was look... (223 words)

My brother's fiancée is cheating, do I show him the proof or not?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I am in a bit of a dilemma, I was invited by a friend onto a dating site called Badoo. So I joined to see what it was as I had no idea, and I came across a profile for my borther's Fience (definitely her as it was her picture) stating that she is looking for a man and that ... (166 words)

What's stopping him from asking me out? Is it the age difference?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a 21 years old. At my work there is this older man that I talk to I know he's about 9-10 years older than me. He's a really nice guy and is always a frequent customer at my work. We always talk and I can tell between us there is an attraction, just by the way we talk and ... (173 words)

My girlfriend says she's only been with 2 men, but I don't believe her. Am I right?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I dont know what to do. I have been with my girlfriend for the last 5 years, but I cant trust her. I am 25 and she is 24. She has told me that she has had two boyfriends before me who she had sex with, but I have heard that she has had more. I think she has had above 10. ... (317 words)

Do I chose the man I love or the man I see a future with?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for just over half a year now and we have become pretty attatched to each other. The big "L word" has been mentioned. However, I think emotions are stronger on his side. A few months back I met another guy and I felt an instant click with him. ... (167 words)

I don't want to let him go, but I need to if he doesn't see a future with me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - We've been together just over a year. I know he loves me in some fashion (I am one of maybe 3 people in his life that actually understands him and that he feels totally comfortable with). I asked him the other night if we were going anywhere with our relationship. He said ... (156 words)

Am I a normal female?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - am i a normal female?please help .there is this one time i was making love with my boyfriend and lots of fluids came from me.i mean it was like water was pouring from a tap of water.this has never happened and i am freaking out.he says am normal and a very special woman,but i ... (71 words)

My son wants a civil partnership with his friend for financial reasons despite not being gay! Is this illegal? What should we do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have a 23-year-old son, he's been in a relationship with his girlfriend for the last 18 months and everything's going well, he's got a good job, working in IT equipment sales and has a good social life. He lives with his best friend Steve who he's known since college,... (202 words)

Why is my teacher acting like this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My English teacher and I have been staring into each other's eyes for several times. It's like our eyes were locked and most of the time he would look at me for a long time until I looked away. Also, during morning assembly, I caught him looking at me when I was walking towards ... (140 words)

How do I handle my girlfriend? She is acting like a complete bitch!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I need help with my girlfriend She is acting like a bitch and I know she is not but she says I constantly annoy her and always tell her what to do when the only thing I tell her to do is to don't drink to much whenever she does And she gets all mad and bitchy towards me sayin... (229 words)

Is it too young to be feeling I've wasted life and how do I be more positive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I think i'm having an early life crisis!! I am verging on 28. My girlfriend and I broke up at the beginning of the year. we were together for 2 and a half years. I don't know if it was the right decision. But now i'm going to jet off to China for a year in Feb. It worries ... (345 words)

My in-laws have my children and now my alcoholic husband is dead they wont let them come back to me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi i have two children, 13 and 7 years old. i live seperately and my children live with my father in law, and my husband died 2 year ago. now i want back my children but my mother in law is not agreeing ,she thinking i am responsible for my husbands death but its not true ,and ... (117 words)

Holiday romance.....I like him but does he like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - i went vacation met this guy, after meeting sometime at a party. we slept together. then i teaxted him asking if he wants to meet me before i leave. no reply. then i went back to my country. After a month i went back again then i met him at the party. He told me that i was good ... (158 words)

My parents disapprove of our relationship and I'm not sure what I'm letting myself in for....advice please!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi Hope you can give me some advice on something I have no idea about! In my past I have had 3 very bad relationships. A lot of this was down to the fact they had money. Money never interested me, I just want to be happy, but my parents want me to find someone financia... (281 words)

Why does this happen? My whole body tightens up and shakes when I go to meet a guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - im a gay guy who is 19 years old and i have no problem talking to people and making friends i am one of the most outgoing people you will ever meet, im easy to get along with and im around people 24/7. i have no issues texting guys or talking to them online. even if a guy is j... (309 words)

What should I do to make him not move? A lot of our friends don't want him to move either

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - The guy that I like/best friend who I am talking to wants to move. He's been wanting to move since the beginning of the school year. His parents have let him make that decision since his older sister lives to town he wants to move too but he doesn't know what to decide. He tel... (131 words)

What will make things better? I am struggling with my pregnancy and non-existent social life!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi all. A few weeks ago I found out I am pregnant. My partner and I are delighted as we have been trying for about a year, the baby was conceived with fertility treatment and we have just bought a house together. The thing is that I am struggling with horrible symptoms... (644 words)

Is it time to exit this relationship? His actions are scaring me. Plus my Bf watches porn everyday and that he's been calling gay chat lines.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Need some help.. Basically last weekend I went on my boyfriends phone and found he watches porn everyday and that he's been calling gay chat lines.. Which I really dont understand. He said he rang it as needed someone to talk to, but a gay chat line? Surely thats not the answ... (169 words)

Why is he contacting me less than before? And am I being over anxious about the level of contact?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - please ANY advice would help....ok so ive been with my boyfriend for 1 year 5 months, but recently like 3-4 months ago he lost his phone so ive been pretty much the ONLY person hes talked to on a phone that he borrowed from his brother. but now a couple of days ago he got a br... (302 words)

He said sex feels weird and he thinks its because I had a baby!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - this morning my boyfriend told me he doesnt really feel much when we have sex, he hardly holds an erection as it is but when its hard its like a rock.. he told me the penetration feels weird and i dont think thats a good thing? hes never been able to cum during sex but easily ... (106 words)

First date in a LONG time tonight - advice please!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have my first 'first date' in 11 years tonight and I'm rather nervous (I have been single for 2 years after a 9-year relationship). Been online dating sites for a year and this is the first time it has resulted in a date - she sought me out. We were due to meet two weeks a... (162 words)

Is Facebook really going to make me into the girl I hate?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've known this guy for five years. We met when I was 19 and still, well honestly, a party girl. For awhile when I wasn't in a relationship we would just hang out and have fun. We never really talked about us, just had a great time, and after a bit we would go our seperate ... (296 words)

I'm a 21 year old male virgin, and it's killing my confidence. How am I supposed to deal with this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - The situation: I'm a 21 year old male, in college, and despite attending a school famous for its academic programs and abundance of beautiful women, I'm still a virgin. Some clarifying information: 1. I have no religious or moral opposition to sex. I do imagine it's p... (816 words)

Should I risk losing him as a friend and tell him how I feel?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My best friend and I are quite close and I think he feels like I'm the closest one to him that he can trust. The thing is, although I put our friendship first because he means the world to me, I think I still have feelings for him. We dated briefly last year and after a rock... (179 words)

Boyfriend won't hire me to work with him and I feel sick about it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4794 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend has his own business and I hate my job. He also wants to travel a few months of the year so I am trying to find something flexible that will allow for this to happen. Lately i have been helping him with research for his business and told him that I was really i... (222 words)

Ex says I should have sex with him because I owe him my virginity since he waited for me

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my now ex-boyfriend just broke up because of me not being in love with him anymore. Although we're broken up, he's telling me to have sex with him so we can both loose our virginities and then he'll move on. He says if we do have sex, he'll move on for sure. He tells me ... (125 words)

I don't know how to make things up to him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4794 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for almost a year now. I originally broke up with him because I thought it was better for myself, long behold it wasn't. We dated for almost three years, and we had a very strong connection. There have been times where I've ignored him ... (205 words)

Advice on being friends again? I don't want to lose him completely.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4794 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex and I were only friends for about a month before we started dating. He was afraid of us dating initially because he really liked us as friends. All of his guy friends are assholes and I was the only one with a "soul" so he said. We really couldn't help falling in love ... (539 words)

How has your past sexual experiences affected your marriage/Serious Prospective Relationship Experienced persons Opinion preferably

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi DC members This is a sex related question. I would like your honest comments about having several sex partners before you settle in life(find your soul mate/Mr. or Mrs Right to start a family with). I mean all the people you have been involved with sexually, irrespec... (176 words)

I'm feeling used up and am thinking would I feel more used up if I went over to see him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4788 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Readers, I am wondering whether my disappointment and hurt is warranted in a siutation that has just occurred. I have been in contact with a guy over the Internet for the last 3 years. I was particularly vulnerable when I first started talking to him after getting out of a... (832 words)

My mom doesn't like my boyfriend and I need her support!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4794 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I love my boyfriend so much. We have been together for almost 2 years now. He has an adorable character which my father likes. My father says he is a man that girls needs. He is mature, kind-hearted, low profile, and behave good to everyone. He always do what he likes without ... (331 words)

Is he trying to get me back so he can use me again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4794 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid I was with a guy for 2 years, but he never acknowledged me as gf, as far as he is concerned i am his sex buddy/bed mate/fwb but i was in love with him totally and the sad part is he knows that. He cheated on me few times with sex workers. Recently he cheated on me... (243 words)

Pasionless relationship after having a child

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been fairly happily married for the last 8 years and my wife and I were together for 5 years before that, so we've been together for a long time. We got along really well when we started out, we both studied the same things at University and had similar interests. Then ... (513 words)

Masturbation messing up my sex life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - where to start...Im an addict and i know this. I lie to myself and to those who really know me and tell them/myself that i dont have any morals and i do what my whims make me do. I have done some really messed up things in this regard. Sex. I'm addicted to the high i get when i ... (361 words)

I am very close to my mom but why don't I tell her much about my university life?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - It’s weird, my mum and I have always been very close, more than most mother an daughters. I tell her everything! She is like my best friend I love telling her what is going on and things that have happened, even little things that are pointless. Though, since being at ... (175 words)

Give it another chance? or is he using me? do you guys think he lied to me when he said he didn't meet anyone?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear friends... i need some advice. I broke up with my bf 5 months ago and It's been really hard. I know our relationship wasn't working and that we tried so many times to be ok, but we argued a lot! i never stopped missing him, though... recently, we started talking agai... (249 words)

If isn't interested in me anymore then why does he seem to want me in his life, stil?

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7 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear Cupid, about a month ago this amazing guy broke up with me, i cheated on him 7 months before this happened, but, as a subconscious way of getting back at him for his cheating (no excuse though, it was wrong. period.) We hurt each-other a lot, we did need a break up, bu... (259 words)

Are we dating? I don't know!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4785 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm a sophomore in highschool. I currently have an unspoken thing with a senior. We are mutual friends of my neighbor's. Matt (neighbor) kind of prompted us. It was so obvious I liked Sid. I didn't know if he liked me or not. He dropped hints, but I'm very hesitant to assume ... (389 words)

I love my fiance and I want to get on with his family! So why am I being made to feel like an outsider?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4753 days ago

7 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I get the feeling that a certain member of the family of my fiance, doesnt like me and judges me because Im not religious. The person that I believe does not approve also has a lot of prejudice veiw points that I disagree with to the point of being offended. On subjects... (260 words)

Confused!! is this a bag of issues or a wife material?? will my kids have any trouble being mixed too??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4710 days ago

7 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I met this girl while going through a rough patch with another girl who i did not like that was trying to force herself on me. This new girl was prettier and more intelligent had a full time job and proper stuck up for me and fought the other girl down... even her parents... (669 words)