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writes:hi,I truly have feelings for someone who is about 70.He is my dad's friend.At first, he showed an interest in me.then he managed to get me be alone with him.He said stuff like, he's never taken to anyone like he did to me.He was so romantic,and even kissed me.when I refused, he asked me to kiss him again.but i said no.then he wanted me to kiss his forehead,which i did 'cause i really loved him,but i didn't want to be the bad girl.he's tried to tell me some thing.but i remained as if i don't understand.later,he went away.then i kind of opened myself to him(i know i want him) maybe he just wanted to have fun with someone younger than him.still i don't care.i love him.let him have fun.i only want to give him what he wants from me.but it's just not possible!my parents don't expect that from me.what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2011): you just think that you want this 70 year old man you will damage your life forever if you go ahead and go to bed with this man,you r the one who gets hurt,this man only wants to have sex with you do yourself the right thing and find you someone your own age
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 November 2011):
 so are you willing to let him use you? it sounds to me like that's what you want
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2011): It is a tough situation,and there are some questions you need to ask yourself. If your Dad finds out about you and his friend, he is not going to be happy and he may end his friendship with this man. Are you willing to come between their friendship? Your Dad may feel uncomfortable around you for a period of time, and the relationship between you may change forever (of course he will always love you, but things will change) are you prepared for that to happen just to have a bit of fun with a man who is old enough to be your grandfather? In the end it's your decision, and you will do what you want to, but I would think about this before making a decsion. Good luck though.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (11 November 2011):
 Since you've decided that you don't care even if he just wants to have fun with you, then what exactly are you worried about?
Your parents don't expect a lot of things from you. The fact that you've kissed a 70 year old friend of your dad's, is certainly not on their list of expectations, but you've done it anyway.
If you want to be irrational and stubborn about "wanting" him despite all the blazing neon signs, then no one can dissuade you. But think about what you are getting yourself into. This man is old enough to be your grandfather. His life is pretty much over, but you have everything to look forward to. This will not be a healthy relationship and allowing him to have some "fun" with you, can damage your future relationships in more ways than one.
This man has nothing to lose, he's getting the young girl and he'll say anything to get you into bed. But can you face your future husband/boyfriend and ever come to terms with the fact that you've had a 70 year old lover?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2011): This is a tough one ..... are you sure you are in love with him? It could be that you want him just because you know it's forbidden by social rules. Ah, that added to the fact that he has been so nice to you.
I am about the same age as you and I denied myself being with a man who was 50 because after spending 2 years with him I realized that, even without intention and beside the sexual aspect, he was seeing me somehow as a daughter, tending to be the one ruling the relationship, making all the decisions etc. AND he loved me for 2 full years.
Another aspect would be the sexual one. What if you come to discover he cannot satisfy you, either for misfunction of equipment or because of the age gap that comes with certain prejudice about sexuality? Take for example oral sex ... You would probably end up disappointed, disgusted or both, taking him off the high place he is standing right now in your eyes.
If you only plan to have some fun and move on, I say it's best. But keep in mind, you will always be running the risk of your dad finding out and that would be damaging your trust and family relationship forever.
Truth is older men are better in the sack because they know that pleasing a woman thoroughly can make her do almost anything.
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