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writes: i feel stupid even writing this. as if i've let myself down. i split with my boyfriend of nine months, three months ago. im 16 years old,and had only known him a year. surely i should be over this now. i've been telling myself everything under the sun that could possibly help me get over him,but my efforts were in vain. i feel i should start from the very beginning,if just for my own 'benefit',i love the story :( i met him through a friend,and being 15 year old teenagers,we quickly developed feelings for each other,and within a week,he was telling me he loved me. i should have noted this as odd,but,like i said,being a 15year old,having'i love you' said to you,by this stunningly gorgeous boy,popular,clever,funny,so ind,charming,made me feel amazing,well,made me feel amazing! i'd had 'i love you' said to me before,but the only time it started to mean something was about two months into the relationship,just after christmas,when we lost our virginity to each other. i can still remember the morning after so clearly,we spent the whole day together,and i honestly have never been happier. the following six months continued to be perfect,be celebrated every month anniversary,every aspect of the relationship seemed to be flawless. then in late june,we started to disagree with each other. it's difficult to describe to be honest,i am a very loud,bossy and bubbly person,and he was a bit more shy,so didn't speak out as much,which is probably where the problems lied. so,anyway,he ended it with me,on july 26th,late at night,by text,because he was under false understanding that i had cheated on him. i must stress that this is in no way true. he then went a month without speaking to me at all,i texted and texted,but he did not respond until september. had a text conversation about college,and other common interests,but it was as if there had never been anything between us,and that he didn't care about me,which i suspect he doesn't. another month went by where we did not speak,mainly because he had got a new girlfriend,and i was so determined not to 'get in the way', that i 'got in the way'. i don't know what i was thinking to be fair,but what i did was; i mailed his girlfriend to tell her that i was happy for them,and to look after 'my baby'. i still think of him as 'my michael' even now. so the two of them rode off into the sunset,not speaking to me,leaving me more heartbroken than ever,at the knowledge that i could be so easily replaced. they shortly broke up,i got back into contact with michael again,we had three days of really special texting,and my head went crazy with endless possibilities,i thought i had my baby back:'( he then abruptly stopped responding,as he had the following time,and i was yet more heartbroken. to this day,i still physically dream about him,look back on our countless adventures together,and tears spring to my eyes. i think about him every second of the day,despite my efforts to block him to the back of my mind. i am still so very much in love with him,and my eyes fill with tears as i finish this question,because my life is in ruins. i have no friends,my family is falling apart from what was barely there anyway..i see boys everyday,exchange glaces,even get a phone number,and maybe a meaningless one night stand,but after everything,the only thing i would ever ask for and truly be happy with,is him. i know this is extremely hard to answer,with an answer that i will understand and agree with,but anything you have should help in some way. what on earth am i to do?:'( please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for your answers,I'll take them both on board. obviously I miss him,but I do know I have to stop talking to him. The thing is,its like he wants me to feel like this,because he's never actually told me to leave him alone,so that confuses me D: he always said that if we broke up then we would still be the bestfriends that we were for those beautiful nine months. I say this just having woken up from yet another dream about him,I can't choose or block out what I dream about,but its encouraging me that I shouldn't let go:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2011): you've been going through a rough time in your life... i bet you miss someone to lean on and to hold you while you feel hopeless... especially because you might be feeling he knew you like no other person...
the thing is, this guy doesn't want to be with you... if he wanted, nothing would stop him!
honey, it's been only three months... it might take a bit longer for you to get over him... but you have to allow yourself to move on.
believe me, i know how hard this is, but you have to stop texting and talking to him...
go out, have fun and enjoy! you are so young!
when you least expect, you'll find a nice guy, and michael will be history!
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2011): im so sorry to hear how much pain your in hunny, but he hasnt treated you nicely at all! you deserve so much better!you deserve someone who will listen to you and not what everyone else says, someone that only says 'i love you' when they mean it and someone that wont just ignore you for months or days. there is someone out there that is the right person for you, and imagine how good that will feel if you felt so good with this douchbag. he doesnt deserve your tears, and the sooner you accept this and realise that you dont deserve this, the sooner you can move on... you may not find a nice guy straight away but hes out there and you WILL find him.
Chin up hun. everything happens for a reason.
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