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*lueless1976
writes:Ok to make a long long story short I am in a relationship with a girl for about a year and a half. At first there was alot of decit on both our parts including both of us being married. Well i am divorced now and she is seperated from her husband. We are at the point now to were i talkto her mom alot and that I have been meeting her family. The other day i was on the phone with her and somehow she actually three way called her husband at the end of the conversation he told heer that he loved her. She has been putting off the divorce and I dont know why. I know that its not thzt she is in love with him I am told by her mom and sisters that she is not. Alot of times when she is with him she disappears. Ive talked to her on numerous occasions about it and she just denys. What do i do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 April 2012):
 Her son is hurting because his parents have split up and he is taking his anger out on her, but at the end of the day you are right he needs to grow up. She is holding off this divorce yet she is blaming it on her son. I think she is torn because she is thinking maybe she should do the right thing by her son and go back to his dad, but it sounds like she does not want to be with him, so I think you need to tell her it is time to make up her mind, either she gets the divorce or you are walking, as this is not fair on you.
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reader, clueless1976 +, writes (28 April 2012):
clueless1976 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo part of it is still going on, she is still married. She picked up the paperwork for the divorce three months ago and has still not filed. And when I ask her about it she says that she is putting it off, because she knows that once she does it that she is going to totally loose her son. Her son has told her everything from that she is not her mom anymore to she is a who**. Her sone is 23 and is probably the most immature person that i have ever seen. And the big problem with everything is that she will tell me that she is going to file on this day and she will come back and say that she changed her mind. What do I do? This has been going on since january of last year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2011): I think you have to consider all kinds of things like the length of the relationship or if there are kids involved...She probably does have feelings for him if they were together a long time but that doesn't necessarily mean love! You said her son and her haven't spoken in three months because of the relationship, doesn't that say something? Anyways hope this helps!
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reader, clueless1976 +, writes (12 November 2011):
clueless1976 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have asked her numerous times over and over again whether she still had feelings for him. a little more to the story because of the relationship with me she has lost her son. he has said?numerous bad things liked she isnt his mother anymore. they havent talked in three months. ive even told her that if she had doubts about her husband i would go away. but she just gets mad and frustrated.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (11 November 2011):
Are you really sure that she does not love him? My guess is that she still has some sort of feelings for him and she is not sure what to do, she sounds confused. Maybe her family don't want her to be with him and are convinced she does not love him, but if she wanted him out of her life and wanted to start fresh with you well then she would be going to get a divorce fast not delaying it, she obviously is confused at the moment and is unsure what she wants. You need to talk to her and ask her where you stand before you get hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2011): Not for nothing, but her Family can't answer for her. As for her going off and disappears with him is a major signal that she is not fully ready to give up that relationship. Guess, my question is did she cheat on her current husband with you? Then why would she cheat on you.
Best of luck, but I would run the other direction!!!
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