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51-59,
*hoebe2
writes:My husband of five years has an eleven year old and didn't want any more kids. so when I got pregnamt he forced me to abortion. Then one day he found out he had a 16 year old and brought her into his life. she didn't want me around and started talking about how I mistreated him. which was the opposite. one christmas I found myself 3 months pregnant and we spent the holiday apart he with his parents and kids and me with my family. The next day he told me he had stopped loving me. my son and I moved out and both my husband and I filed for divorce. a lot of abuse and threats were made on his parts so I got an order of protection.I still haven't finalized my divorce. I went to another country to have my daughter. and I am back she is perfect but I just want him to sign over his rights to her. and I will move away. shouldn't she be free of abuse and have a better childhood than I did?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2011): You should talk to him and try to persuade him to hand over his rights. He clearly does not care to have children with you, so why would he refuse to hand over his rights now? if anything he should be jumping at the chance to be permanently free of responsibility and ties.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2011): All children have rights to having a relationship with both parents. Just because he may have been emotionally abusive to you does not infer he will be to his daughter.
So it is best decided for the courts of the USA. In Canada, there must be justifiable grounds and legal proof to have a child denied a parent.
Hope this was of help.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 November 2011):
 Off course you want to protect your child and bring her up the best that you can, nobody can blame you for that at all, as any mother would want nothing but the best for there child. But at the end of the day he is her father and you cannot change that no matter how much you try, when she gets older she will start asking you questions and probably will want to know who her father is. Maybe you could go to a court to sort this out, if you feel that this man could be dangerous to your daughter well then get yourself a lawyer, but if you honestly deep down in your heart know that he would never harm her well then you should not stop him seeing his daughter. Off course the choice is down to you just make sure you are doing the right thing by your daughter.
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