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writes:So I've got an issue, and I'm not sure what to do. Really quick five year history... When I was 16 I was in a relationship with a guy. His mother passed away two months into our relationship, and I helped him as best I could through that. A year later he decided to go on a mission for his church for two years, and I supported him in that. He told me before he left that I could date if I wanted to. After he left I got together with another guy, however C as we'll call him came home after just a couple months into his mission. I was still with the other guy, and didn't leave him when C came home. Since then C and I have tried to be friends with a couple slips into more than friends.It's been five years since I first got with C. It's been three and a half years since I broke up with C. And since then I've been dating another guy whom I recently broke up with, however I just found out a couple days ago that C just got a girl friend, and I'm really upset about it.My question is, do I really still love him? and that's why I'm upset about this girl and tried my hardest to stay good friends with him since we broke up.OR, am I just one of those girls who unconciously collect or string guys along, and I just found out now because "my" guy had been taken away?Any help would be appreciated! I need to know if I love him or not, and if so how to let go of him, or if I should keep holding a candel for him so to say until he and this girl are through?
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (12 November 2011):
 Yeah jealous you are of this girl. That comes from having a previous reltshp with him so dont let that emotion drive any decision.Dont wait for this guy life is damn short. Its been five years anyway. Move on.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 November 2011):
 I think you felt this way because you where jealous, you used to have him but you moved on with another guy and then just as your own relationship ended, you found out that he was in a relationship, so you felt a little bit jealous because he has moved on now. You need to be happy for him that he has finally found someone after all this time. You need to move forward with your life and leave the past where it belongs.
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