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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello. I just need to write this out and check that I'm not being stupid/naive/optimistic/all of the above, and hopefully get some sound advice.Having split up from an unhealthy relationship earlier this year, a few months back I decided that I should get back out there and start dating which I did and I met a lovely man. Same old story, we hit it off things are bloody amazing, (super dates, buys me the most thoughtful birthday presents, makes me a card) and it all is seemingly going well. (I asked him if he wanted to come round to my house which inevitably means meeting my parents) when he comes out with the ripper "I don't want a relationship".I said to him that I'm enjoying the slow pace at which the relationship is progressing and that I'm in no rush for things to become THAT serious after only a few months, but like wise, I want things to progress and I'm at that stage where I need that commitment of dating exclusively to which he agreed. Now I am pretty confused and I will ask him again to clarify where we are, but what do you think would be the best course of action? I can really see myself falling for this guy in the near future but would it be best to cut my losses now and walk away or should I tell him what I expect/how I expect to be treated and leave it with him? Can you see why I'm so darn confused?!Sincerely, FRUSTRATED!!!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 November 2011):
 Off course you are confused, he is treating you like a princess and then he hits you with that, if it was just after asking him to come and meet the parents well then my guess is that he might have just felt that it was going a bit to fast and he might have freaked out a little bit. That's the way that it sounds to me anyway. I guess instead of giving up completely you need to talk to him. Explain to him again that you are not wanting to rush in to things but you want to know that it is going somewhere. Ask him to be honest with you because you don't want to get hurt in the future, tell him you feel yourself falling for him and you just want to be told the truth so you both know where you stand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2011): You have no crystal bell to say you can see yourself falling for him. You are falling for him now,or caught him on the rebound. You need to back off,he`s told you he doesnt want a relationship. Somehow I think you have got carried away. Men dont say they dont want a relationship if they do.
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