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writes:In such a dilemma!!Im 23 and hav met a lad who is 25,get on so well with and he has a really good job, a nice car and would def be a good long term partner. I am attracted to him but not as much as a lad i work with and this is my problem, he is only 17 which seems so young and he is in a different dept but im so attracted to him!!!I dont know what to do.... A man who wil be good in long term or someone who im so attracted to!!!Thanks!!!
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 November 2011):
 You fancy a guy aged 17, who is legally above age of UK consent which is 16. Legally you can date this guy, but he will still need his parents consent if he decided to marry you.That's the problem, he isn't fully grown yet, he is still partly his parents responsibility. I'm not keen on adults dating young people. Emotionally and even physically he's still got some way to grow. Being with you would force him to grow up faster than he would normally. What if his parent's object and throw him out, he is still a teenager, no matter how attractive and hard working he is.However there is that spark, you like him more than the other guy. If I were in your position, I would wait and hope that there would be a future for us someday. I wouldn't go near him until he was 18, when he will no longer be his parents responsible. At 21 he will legally be a totally responsible adult.Date the other guy, why not, he sounds nice too. Date, go out, have fun. If you still feel this way when the young guy grows up, then go for it, ask him for a date of something.
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (12 November 2011):
 Its always a wise decision since you're considering marriage to be with someone you're attracted to and have chemistry with. It goes a long way when the chips are down 10 years down the road. Then you want to think, this other person has better economic stability which is also what a lot of ppl look for. Its also, how they feel about you. Finally its your choice, can I be with him and grow to love him more, or do I flow with my heart. This guy is 17 and you're 23. How much longer can you wait? Does he have prospects, is he thinking about settling down any time soon. Wait a couple of months or so and try and come to decision of what the best option is for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2011): May i just say i am in the UK and legality is 16....so there is no question about anyone being underage x
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (11 November 2011):
 If you are having this type of dilemma the answer is to choose neither. You haven't found the guy who's right for you just yet is all. Relax and wait and don't enter a relationship just because you are feeling a bit panicky.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2011): Lust Vs Love and A Life? Hmmm...
How about being wise and in control of yourself and impluses and desires and chose the Adult and not the jail bait?
What some people fail to realize that the more and more we make unwise choices that derive from the lesser impulses- we develop them into a habit and eventually they become our character.
So do you want to be someone who could be viewed as a sexual predator that dates the underaged?
Or do you want to be an accountable woman that can make wise decisions and choices that will bring you peace and happiness and not jail time?
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