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writes:ok so me and my ex broke up 2 yrs ago.. We were together for 5 yrs.. We had a good relationship, we hardly ever fought.. Family loved me..everything was good so I thought he lost my trust I couldn't trust him so why be with someone u can't trust right.. It hurt ending our relationship.. He was my first serious boyfriend first practically everything I will always love him.. But I just can't be with him.. I recently found out that he moved in with his new gf which he hasn't been with not even a year yet..and it bothers me that me being with him for 5 yrs he never wanted to move in together.. While this new girl he hardly even knows.. Why would he that? I know he's moved on.. So have I (well kind of) but I mean it just bothers me!! Why would he do that?
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (1 July 2011):
sounds to me he has grown up a lot since the two of you split up i would forget about him and move on like he has if you rush into a relationship it won,t work
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 July 2011):
 It's got nothing to do with you personally you know. There could be many reasons for why he decided to move in with this new girlfriend, and my bet is this:
He's more mature now than what he was when he was with you. You were with him since you were teenagers, teenagers naturally don't think about moving in together, as that is for adult relationships. It was also his first relationship, and he didn't know what was expected. Neither you or him talked about moving in together, right? Did you want to and he said no? Maybe this girl suggested they move in, or he, after 5 years without living with you, he decided to try something new and see how it is to live with someone.
The other reason for moving in with her could be that often when people move in together it is for practical reasons. It's not a declaration of love or commitment, for many it is merely a practical thing. Maybe a room-mate moved out and she can't pay rent alone. Maybe she got raped and doesn't dare to sleep alone. Maybe they figured rent would be cheaper living together and they're both tight on money. Maybe one apartment was nicer than the other and they moved together on a whim. Maybe she got pregnant (I hope not, but you never know).
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