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writes:I met this guy Jake at the start of March this year. We got together on the night that we met and from then on he pretty much tried everything to get me. At first i was a bit standoffish because i had just been messed over by a previous guy. After a while i realised hes a nice guy, attractive and for all i knew i could have been letting a great guy go. So i started reciprocating more. We got to the point we were texting each other cute msgs everyday. He would even sometimes send a simple smiley face. We met up a few times.. went away with friends twice, and things were going great. At one point he took two days to reply to me and i freaked out but he told his best mate things were better than ever, and they were so it was fine, when we went away i eventually slept with him.. :/ I had a really deep conversation with his best friend one night we were away and he told me how he hasnt seen Jake so happy in such a long time coz he works all the time and has been screwed over by a few girls before. He never talks about his personal life too him much but he always finds ways to bring me up and that hes pretty much besotted by me.Thursday night after the latest wkend away was his 21st so we all went out into the city. The weirdest night i have ever had. We were both shy and didnt know how to act around each other again. We would hint we wanted to be together but then he would walk off. He made no moves like he used too. Then finally near the end of the night he just came up and kissed me. It was amazing but then he walked off. I went up to him later to kiss him again and make the move but he pretty much rejected me and i kissed the side of his head.. was very awkward. Then i tried again about 10 minutes later and he did the same thing so i though 'fk this' and left it. I got up on a podium and just tried to have fun. I had quite a few men come onto me but i ignored them all as i didnt want to screw anything up. Then i saw jake getting really close with one of our mutual friends. Then they held hands for a bit and walked off to the bar. I felt soo sick and nauseated. A little later i went and found him sitting down with a few of his friends and i went over to say goodbye. I just stood their and lightly waved and he didnt even get up. another girl had to tell him to get the eff up and say bye to me so finally he did. He came up to me really close and intimate and kissed me and nibbled my ear(he knows i love that) i just said happy birthday hope you had a good night and turned round and walked away. I was so disappointed and confused. I was so careful at first but he was so persistent and now he finally got me and i like him so much but he is acting so strange. He text me 3 days later asking how my weekend was. We talked for a bit then i asked when we were catching up again and he didnt respond within 24 hours so i got straight to the point coz i couldnt deal with this and had to text him(i wanted to tell him face to face but he wasnt replying to me so i had no choice) i told him to let me know once hes made up his mind because hes confusing the hell out of me and im not just going to sit around and wait sorry. To which he replied the next night with a msg explaining how he is not ignoring me, he just forgets to reply. we can hang out soon but he has a really busy next few weeks but he will make time for me. I replied with yer ok well let me know when, i told him i didnt want to freak him out or anything but i had to get it off my chest.I was talking to his best friend again and he could see i was upset and assured me jake is a good guy. hes not the type to sleep with someone and then ditch them. He knows its happened to me before so i dont know why he would just stop talking to me. Cant he atleast have any decency and tell me so i can at least move on.. no questions, if thats the case.Its been a week since i msged him and he has not tried to contact me once like he said. I SAID hes confusing me, i WANT him to be straight up with me because i WONT deal with being lead on. Its been driving me crazy, i even made a little facebook contact last night on a new picture of his to maybe break the ice if i freaked him out a little and he replied(hes not a fbooker and NEVER replies to anyone and hes always blunt and he even put a lol in his sentence) so i was satisfied.. we had a bit of a laugh and thats it. He said he liked me. i told him im not gunna wait around so he better pull his thumb out or im gone. I would have thought by now a week later that he would have tried to make a bit more contact. I just dont get it. I know he is not a player. Hes not a ladies man and we have mutual friends and all his friends think quite highly of him. I just dont get it. This happened only a few months ago with someone else. Before that it was my ex who dumped me a week after taking my virginity and before that... it was about 4 other guys who just dropped off the face of the earth... too coward to say anything so end up ignoring me. But this guy was so much more. I know i have done my bit. So for now do i just leave it? Im not the girl thats needy and texts a guy everyday asking why he never replied. I only told him ONCE tht i wont take any bullshit. RAHHHHH its driving me crazy :(
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reader, Beautyandbiscuits  +, writes (1 July 2011):
 You deserve so much better than this! If you are getting other male attention then it shows that your a good looking girl and you shouldn't spend any time thinking about "what ifs". Find someone who won't make you worry about what the relationship is because if he really liked you, he wouldn't let you get away!!
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (1 July 2011):
i would tell him you don,t want anything to do with him as much as you like him you deserve so much more than this i am in exactly the same situation eventually you will meet a guy who will be so much better for you and who will be straight and honest with you not someone that plays games and confuses you he will mess your head up good luck
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