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writes:My husband and I have been together for about 5 years. We were both virgins when we got together. How do I explain to him that I want to explore sex further? We both come off as shy in the bedroom, so how do I explain to him that I want to watch porn with him? How do I tell him that I want to try out a butt plug when he may not even know such a thing exists?
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (2 July 2011):
he may be feeling the same way he may be wondering if you want to experiment to i would try talking to him away from the bedroom or surprise him before he is due home put a porn dvd on lay on the bed in a sexy pose in just lingerie he,ll soon take the hint you shouldnt be shy with your husband even if he,s shy he,ll love it all men do
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reader, Wesley55 +, writes (2 July 2011):
I know that this might come across as sounding slightly blunt, but the longer I live the more I am begining to realize that sometimes we need to do what is difficult in order to get what we want. I am afraid that you are simply going to have to speak to him about this matter when you believe that the time is approprite. I understand that such a subject matter isn't easy to talk about but apprently you were able to provide him with an answer when he proposed to you which must have also have been difficult. Respect both of your and your husband's wishes and only do what EACH of you are willing to do. Do not push him into doing somthing that he objects to even if you do not understand the reason for it right away and you can always come back and ask him why he objects later. I wish you both a happy life and marriage.P.S. Do not be afriade to educate him on things if necessary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011): easy.....get some porn tapes/cd's/dvd's or what have you and show them when the two of you are together. If not....look at some porn videos from the comfort of your computer screen. Many porn sites are free and they explore or show everything under the sun. If you're to shy to go into an adult toy store to buy butt plugs....you can order them discreetly from online also.
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 Hey,
You are married, you should be able to freely express your feelings :)
I would GO FOR IT. tell him what you want, you never know, he may just enjoy it and find it kinky or hot... if he loves you, it shouldn't really matter right?
have a talk with him, if he isn't open to doing that, then don't push him into it, that might start a fight, just accept it, and if he is all for it, then go ahead and have fun!
hope i helped! :)
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