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writes:I started messing around with a guy in April, we started dating in May. It's been almost 2 months goin out with him. But when it all started everything was PERFECT and it was amazing. 3 weeks after we started goin out things started changing... We never have any "special" moments anymore, and he seems to have made a schedule of when hes goin to hang out with me. From Friday to Sunday hes always goes to his friends house to go drinking... this started recently and i dont like it, not because i dont trust him, but because we never spend anytime together. We aren't allowed to date to begin with cause are parents dont want it to happen. But i cant seem to explain these things to him without him gettin mad at me. It bugs me that he doesnt want to spend anytime with me. And like, he doesnt tell me he loves me very often anymore unless its online. No cuddles or anything, everytime we get alone we just jump right into sex. How do i get around this and fix things??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Beautyandbiscuits  +, writes (1 July 2011):
 The first few weeks of a relationship are meant to be about getting to know the person more and sex can be an extension of that. I have also been in relationships where sex has taken over the relationship and the only way that you can get this to stop is to talk to him about it. If you bring it up with him and talk seriously about it and say how you feel then you will see that if he really cares about you he will stop and take your feelings on board more often but if he doesn't really care about you then he may just leave and if this is the case he wasn't worth it to begin with!Just remember you are young and you have plenty of time to stress about these situations but right now its all about having fun so no matter the outcome hold your head high and concentrate on being happy :D
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (1 July 2011):
 You can't fix this, he's the one who has engineered things the way he likes it. He knows you like him and that's why he can get away with it.
I'd ditch him, personally, he's a user and a loser. Sorry!
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (1 July 2011):
 He is getting what he wants.You need to be the one who sets the boundaries. If you want more than sex, speak up.Silence is your permission.
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (1 July 2011):
 He needs to grow up and learn a little about women, but that won't be for some time yet.....
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (1 July 2011):
this sounds to me that you are being used for sex and sex only it doesnt sound like he wants a relationship with you he's just in for the sex hope didn't upset you just giving you a honest answer you can do so much better you don't deserve to be treated like this id would tell him you want no more to do with him good luck
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