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writes:I have a major issue which has been bothering me for a while and honest brutal answers would be much appreciated. I am a 30 year old woman. I am good looking, I take care of my body, eat well and believe in being the best that I can be. I am hardworking and also very successful in business. In addition, I am very confident but I don't talk too much, am happy and I like to believe that I am kind and helpful. However, I have problems getting on with other women!! I have female friends but I have noticed they make comments about me being "perfect"... and call me Missy Miss all the time. I am more successful than all of them. I can't go shopping with any friends because I know that they cannot afford what I can and I don't want to rub it in their faces... What can I do to make women more comfortable around me? Women always seem to try to point out my faults!! Its really hurtful and reached a point where I no longer want to really spend time with females or make more friends. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): Thanks ladies for the responses. Some really valid points raised.. barriers (I think I do put them up constantly in defence mode), being too strong (or appearing to be) and also the green monster (can't be helped). For all the women in the same position, I really feel for you. Thank you again for taking the time to answer. Bom dia pra ti! x
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 Hi,I am happy that you are such a successful, smart woman. The truth is jealousy...Its hard to find real friends. True friends will care, love, support you and be happy for your success. The fact that you have to think and act certain ways around your females friends, so you won't hurt their feelings, shows that its not truly a friendship. Just try meeting new people and making new friends. The whole point of having friends is to share your life, your inner thoughts, be yourself..Jealousy is what destroy any relationship. Rather male, female... Its sad, but true. Unfortunately, we all have in ourselves. Some more than others...Please, never change and the people that really care about you, will accept you and love you the way you are. Also, so what if you show off a little? :-) its ok!Good luck and hope you make many new female friends!
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (1 July 2011):
i am in the same situation i don,t have any female friends and i asked one friend a while ago we don,t speak now and she said she was jealous of me and scared that her boyfriend would want me rather than her as like you do i take care of my body and looks that is what it all boils down to purely jealousy you don,t need people in your life like that true friends would be happy for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011): Blimey aren't you the lucky one - I guess your just a little too much for most
Don't you have any friends who are equally as successful? That wouldn't feel intimidated?
I think maybe you put up barriers not them .There must be something wrong - I have friends of every age and background, what they have or are is irrelevant.
Just kick up your heels,relax,and why not go shopping with them, they probably would love to help you choose expensive clothes - I would. Be a friend. Have a laugh, get drunk, whatever - forget what you look like or own sometimes. Listen to them share problems Yes some women are bitchy but you don't have to be friends with that type do you?
We all need friends
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