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writes:My boyfriend of 4 months is becoming unreliable and a bit of a let down when it comes to going out to places that we had organised, with or without other friends. He says he can do it then suddenly changes his mind. we agrue about it until the point is across that he doesnt want to or cant be bothered to go, no matter how much i beg and want to. what should i do? i love him so much and he loves me, but surly he would want to make me happy like this, we have such a great time when we are together so i dont understand why he doesnt do things and makes a huge deal over it. what should i do? do i need to end, even though i dont want to, but i dont like him like this! please help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, naughtysister76  +, writes (2 July 2011):
Hey girlfriend, dump him I bet he has another gf/ If my boyfriend stopped wanting to be with me. There is other guys that want the chance to date girls like us. Dump him before you catch him with another girl, If he really loves you he will want to fight to save your love for each other or he will be happy about you breaking it off with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011): He may want his freedom, maybe he is trying to give you reason to break it off with him cause thats easier for him that way.Or maybe he just wants a bit of space, you both need to spend time with your friends and then when you do meet up its special, that way the relationship doesn't get stuck in a rut.If this attempt fails then I would cut him loose.Good Luck.x
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (1 July 2011):
 Yeah, end it. He needs to learn some respect. It is rude to make plans and then break them without a good reason.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (1 July 2011):
 Take a break from him first. Step back and go out with your friends without inviting him. Stop making plans with him. See if he steps up and arranges any dates/activities. If he can not put forward any effort or keep plans, then let him go and tell him that he is unreliable and disinterested in spending time together.It will hurt to break up, they often do! But, the quicker you let go, the quicker you can heal and enjoy the company and opportunities ahead of you!
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (1 July 2011):
 why does he decide he cannot be bothered to go? does he choose to see his mates instead? is he short of money? is he spending his money on something else? does he take drugs? is he depressed and unmotivated to go places? is he busy with studies? does he lack confidence about going to places with you? do you think maybe he only says he will take you places to please you and then realises that actually it is not what he really wants to do?before you decide whether to dump him or not over this you need to have a good honest talk to him - let him know it is bothering you so much that you feel it is ruining the relationship coz you feel let down, ask him WHY he lets you downx
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