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female
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30-35,
*optop197
writes:We've been working together (I know, work is not the best place to get a crush, but I can't help it!) for about a month now, and in that time we've created a pretty friendly relationship. We're very jokey and sarcastic with each other and we tease each other a lot. There have been a few times where he'll tease me by saying stuff like "I pity you" and I tease him that way back. Once or twice when I had to sample chocolates (in a bookstore, no less!) he said he was jealous of the (insanely dorky) apron I had to wear. He'll also pretend to be offended by things I say, or will call me crazy (again, in a teasing way) if I happen to disagree with him on something. A lot of our interactions involve sarcastic teasing. We also seem to be really comfortable around each other, and out of the few times we've been able to converse, conversation seems to flow really well. I was in on my day off a week ago doing some shopping, and he said he was really tired, and if I could buy him the biggest latte possible, he would buy me the biggest peppermint latte ever in return. Then later in the day (after I ended up working because they were short people) he walked in and said "I know this place that makes the best, most heavenly sandwiches ever. Would you be excited if the next time we worked together I brought you one?" and I said that yeah, I could get pretty excited about that, and the deal was made, haha. And now ever time I see him, he brings it up and asks me if I'm excited, and tells me that this sandwich will change my life... cute stuff like that. :-) There's been no touching, but we are in a working environment so it would be hard to do that without seeming obvious. From what I've seen, he's not super sarcastic that way with our other co-workers, although he's nice to everyone and is always making jokes and talking to people. Is there any way to tell if he's interested in me as more than a friend?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (29 December 2011):
 Teasing yes, that often means he is interested. As long as the teasing is lighthearted and fun.
And in his case I think his teasing IS light hearted and designed specifically to get your attention.
And he is actively encouraging you to spend a little of your leisure time with him over lunch or coffee.
This is something guys only ever do if they are really interested.
So yes, to cut a long story short, he is defintely interested in you. Go ahead and enjoy.
Hope it all works out well.
WHEREAS, for future reference, If his teasing HAD bordered on belittling you or making cruel fun of you in anyway then no, that would have been unacceptable to call it 'teasing'since it is not fun to be belittled.
The sarcasm is another aspect that can, in some circumstances, border on questionable. Some sarcasm can be very witty and lots of fun. Though some people go too far, and still, erroneously think they are funny.
Once again if sarcasm is ever so biting that it hurts you then it is not funny.
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