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writes:My boyfriend of 14 months lives with his girlfriend of 4yrs...Everytime I try to end the relationship he tells me i don't know what may happen in the future. What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 December 2011):
 Say "I do and it involves me getting my life back" and LEAVE.he's manipulating you... he has a girlfriend... and he's NOT leaving her for you... accept that. leave him.do not let him cry or whine or make promises.IF you really want to be with him, then tell him"when you are in your own place WITHOUT the encumberance of a girl friend and you can PROVE it to me, I MAY consider letting you back in my life"
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (26 December 2011):
 this guy is manipulating you, and displaying a major red flag, I don't know about you but i'd let him go...potentially too unstable
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (26 December 2011):
He lives with his girlfriend...? He sounds like a keeper!!! Stay with it, it sounds like you're happy. C'mon, 36-40 age group, you know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2011): "Everytime I try to end the relationship he tells me i don't know what may happen in the future. What should i do?"Geez, if I was a suspicious person, I might believe he's only stringing you along for sloppy seconds on the side and you're so dumb he doesn't even have to promise you the moon or concoct elaborate cover stories or flat out lie to keep you in line. Just "[you] don't know what may happen in the future" stops you dead in your tracks.Tell him you DO know what WON'T happen in the future:In five years he will NOT be your boyfriend of 74 months living with his girlfriend of 9 years. In twenty years he will NOT be your boyfriend of 254 months living with his girlfriend of 24 years. (Get where this is going?)Sorry, but I have to ask:1) If YOUR boyfriend is living with HIS girlfriend, what does that make you? 2) If YOUR boyfriend was living with HIS girlfriend at the start of your "relationship" and is still living with her 14 months later, why is he still YOUR boyfriend? Why was he ever YOUR boyfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2011): Let's get one thing right: he is NOT your bf. He is with another woman and he is cheating on her with you.What to do: leave this cheater. Gain some self respect and choose a single man.LoveGirl
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reader, HippyChick  +, writes (26 December 2011):
 He is not your boyfriend, If he was going to leave his girlfriend, he would of, done it by now.
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reader, N91 +, writes (26 December 2011):
 End the relationship...
It's not for you to worry about what happens in the future, he won't be part of your life anymore. Don't try to let him guilt trip you out of doing it. If the relationship has run its course then there's nothing more to say.
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