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female
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anonymous
writes:Me and my cousin have always been close but just recently we were celebrating a family birthday, so we were both a bit drunk and when we were finally alone he kissed me and I didn't pull away.That night we ended up making love and it was the best i've ever had. He makes me ridicuosly happy and whenever i'm with him i feel like a normal couple and then i realise that this would never happen and it makes me feel depressed. All the times that we just snuggle and watch tv is the best bits of the day and it makes it all better. Then after spending time with him i miss him after being away for like 10 minutes :/ i've never experienced this kind of feeling towards anyone before. I want to have the courage to say to him that i want to be able to introduce him as my boyfriend and not my cousin. I'm scared to lose him as my cousin let alone the person i love. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Please don't comment if you're going to say that what we have is wrong etc. Thanks.
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reader, missy123456  +, writes (26 December 2011):
the legality of your relationship depends on where you live. Cousin relationship might be legal while sibling relationship is not. I hope at least you are over the legal age. That said you have not said anything about how he feels. If this is just a fling for him, then move on, and just isolate this incident as a past memory in which you can think about once in a while. If this is serious for both of you, that means an enduring relationship that leads to marriage, then consult with a marriage priest, make sure is legal under your state, and with a counsler, on how best to confront society. Your relationship will depend on your strength and his strength. But if he is not willing to fight, then let it go. You have yet a world to experience, and there is so much culture, events, people, out there
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reader, sweetness123 +, writes (26 December 2011):
 Hi does your cousin feel the same way about introducing yourselves as boyfriend and girlfriend? If he is comfortable being open saying he is your boyfriend and your both happy together, drop the cousin word and be happy! Your both adults and true happiness comes once in a lifetime do you want to be happy or have regrets later. Ps get a blood test and be happy. Emma
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2011): Can I simply ask a question, are you first cousins ( as in is he your uncle/aunts son) or is he further removed? Knowing that will help people be able to give advice on this situation.
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