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36-40,
*ovemeright11
writes:I don't know why me and my boyfriend are having such a problem but we just had a nice weekend planned for our anniversary, it was everything I could have asked for except we had sex 3 times over the weekend and kept having the same issue he could not cum or even feel like he was going to cum and I also had a very hard time feeling like I was going to orgasm we kept trying cause we both wanted to have some great romantic sex for our weekend, but it just kept falling short. We had this problem a week ago also when we tried having sex and I though maybe we could give it a rest and see what happens when out anniversary week comes and we still had issues sexually. Anyways he is going to come over and we are going to try to just have sex like normal but I want to know if there is something we can do to help?? I love him so much and I am so very attracted to him still for sure so its not that.. Please help us I am 23 he is 28. Thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2011): Well dont be the woman that takes the blame/ownership and point the finger at you. I can't stand that we do that to ourselves sometimes; especially when it is unfounded.I think you both seem to let outside stressors get to your in the boudoir times. Instead of making an orgasm the goal of lovemaking; make the lovemaking, the moment be the goal. Enjoy one anothers company, touch, companionship. Go over the things you enjoy the most. Give one another a full body massage to ease tensions and prolong foreplay. Take it slow. Try some new positions or introduce some feathers for teasing. How about some cooling or warming massage oil by KY Jelly? Have a bubble bath together and soap him up with your feet. May sound weird but its different, and it mixes things up. I haven't had complaints on that one not ever. Using your body to lather him up in a shower? Feed each other some sliced fruit and have drinks on hand.Warm water and cold water in glasses and give him oral using the different temperatures.Give him a baby oil rub down with your breasts.Buy yourself a cute or sexy outfit. Dance for him. HAVE FUN!!!Relax.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (13 December 2011):
 If we were to make a bet, my money would be on anxiousness. In his mind, the anniversary was a big deal, as with you, and he stressed out. It happens when expectations are overwhelming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2011): There's no issue here OP. It happens. There are a million different factors that can prevent a climax and there's no way we can know why it happened for you. Stress, pressure, depression, so many different things. Even when everything is 100% perfect sometimes it just doesn't happen.
But to ensure you don't make the situation worse don't worry about it, don't stress out or you'll actually make it harder for it to happen because you'll be trying too hard.
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