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writes:Basically, i started highschool about a week and abit ago, and so far everything has been going brilliantly, i'm doing well with the work, my sets are getting sorted out and my anxiety ( i have a severe anxiety disorder) is getting easier to control. However i do have one small problem which has been bothering me and i just feel so out of place. At first i didn't have anyone to hang around with for the first couple of days, but now this group has kinda started talking to me and i honestly get on really well with them. One boy in particular who i used to be great friends with and he kinda started talking to me again. However i feel like i'm being a pest, it could all be because of the anxiety but i just keep asking myself.. do they really like me? I can't think about anything else but that, ive even told them that if i'm being wierd just to tell me to go away and i won't talk to them but they have said i'm nice and they don't mind me. I feel so paranoid, what do you think? Is it the anxiety or do you think its because they just feel sorry for me and don't acutally like me? Thanks for reading x Reply to this Question
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (22 December 2011):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sorry for the delayed reply. I have now realized yes it was my anxiety and i have reasured myself, that if they didn't like me they wouldn't bother. I get so paranoid about it because it has happened to me on mutiple occassions, and this group ive been hanging around with have just been too good to be true so i was despereate to find some spanner in the works. After i got to know them a bit more i realized they're not mean and they are not the sort of people who pretend to be or like someone their not.. Anyway thankyou x
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (14 December 2011):
 They talk to you because they GENUINELY like you, not because they feel sorry for you. Stop over-analyzing things so much. Why are you digging so deep into a simple matter of people talking to you?
You are doing well with your work, carry on with studies, concentrate on getting good grades and trust me, everything will fall into place. It seems to me you almost have the need to worry about something, and now that your work is going on well and you have nothing to worry about on that front, you've started thinking about the next thing in line...your friends at school.
Trust me, no one out there is judging you or thinking that you're a pest or pitying you. People honestly don't have that much time or inclination to keep thinking about others or judging others. Just accept that they want to be your friends and go with it. Enjoy life!
All the best to you
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (13 December 2011):
 you have had trouble with people in the past and this is why you find it difficult to trust peoples motives now. you seem to have a great personality and i am pretty certain that these people that hang around you actually DO like you.it IS hard to trust when you have been hurt before, so don't be too hard on yourself. if people didnt like you they would not want to spend time with you x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 December 2011):
 You are paranoid, that is all it is. At the end of the day if they did not like you they would never have bothered to talk to you believe me. So you need to accept that they want to be friends with you and hang out with them and enjoy the company. You need to relax and just go with the flow. Yes at high school lots of friends fall out and make up all the time, that may happen but you should not be paranoid, because it is all part of growing up. Just accept that for now they want to be friends with you and enjoy it. Take each day as it comes. Good luck.
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